have you thought about how much time you spend on your computer or phone? What if you spent more time cultivating hobbies or learning new skills? Would you feel more fulfilled?
What is a sacred ritual?
These two words might conjure up images of naked women dancing around a bomb fire, or pagan sacrifices, or maybe even a taking communion at a church. Or, like me, you could have flashbacks of Buffy the Vampire Slayer reading out of some ancient book and casting spells. It could also illicit an eye-roll or two. I'm OK with that. I get it.
If you would, please, suspend these preconceived notions about what a sacred ritual looks like or is for the duration of the time it takes to read this.
What if sacred rituals were just little actions we partook in that reminded us that there are circumstances in this world that are mysterious and out-of-of-our-control-in-a-good-way?
We typically want everything in our life to have some semblance of control. We like comfort, consistency, and safety. This makes sense! We should want to have shelter, food, and the guarantee that our life isn't in danger.
However, when we cling to this idea of needing-to-know too desperately, we are completely thrown off when things (inevitably) show us that we don't always have control.
Typically, when we do realize we're not in control our mind immediately goes to the worst possible scenario. As Gabby Bernstein explains in her book "The Universe Has Your Back" we live our lives like we're the girl in the horror movie just about to have something awful jump out in front of her. We're throwing popcorn at the screen and saying "DON'T DO IT!! YOU'RE GONNA GET HURT!!!".
The funny thing is, unlike the predictable horror movie, there normally isn't a bad guy around the corner. We're typically totally OK, and even when we're not, we typically figure it out. But we put a lot of unnecessary stress on ourselves by constantly being in the scene.
What if the unknown or the mysterious didn't send us into a horror movie but gave us a sense of awe and wonder?
What if instead of using our imaginations to create awful scenarios, we create beautiful ones?
Is it really that much crazier to think that taking the time to give a little offering of prayer and love to the universe could positively affect the outcome of a difficult situation, than (one of my recurring horror scenes) to feel like you're DEFINITELY going to die while you're driving in a snowstorm? We always seem to believe in the bad projections of the future and scoff at the possibility that there could be wondrous outcomes.
Here in Bali, each day people put these little offerings (called on their doorsteps and around their home and light incense. They take the time and put the effort into creating these beautiful little offerings. These offerings are a repeated act of faith by Balinese Hindus and can be infused with intentions, prayers, or just simply put out to ask for good fortune.
Can you imagine if every person spent the time and effort of putting together a beautiful little offering and lit some incense every morning?
And so I've been thinking about this question. About the role of sacred rituals and how I might be able to create them in my life in the modern world. My feeling is that if we made time for something that felt like a sacred ritual in our lives we would feel more connected to the magic in our souls and ultimately more joyful. We would direct more of our abundant imaginative energy towards the positive instead of reliving our horror movie scene over and over.
These sacred rituals are less about what we do, but more about how we do it. Whatever you do, do it with reverence and appreciation of something larger than just our daily routine, you can literally infuse anything with sacredness if you see it from a larger point of view.
We are multi-dimensional beings and acknowledging our sacredness could connect us more to the aspects of ourselves that get pushed aside in our daily grind, and turn us on to the positive possibilities that come from releasing control with love instead of fear.
So light some incense tonight. Say some prayers. Have a hot bath and honor your sacred body.
Do something that feels like it has magic in it and let me know how you feel after.... ✨💫
If you're interested in partaking in a sacred ritual but have no idea where to start I have recorded one of mine. Watch it here. Use this ritual for planting new 'seeds' in your life. A perfect time to practice this is on the night of the new moon, but it can be practiced at any time you feel you need to get back to neutral and imagine new and postive outcomes.
I slept and dreamt that life was joy.
I awoke and saw that life was service.
I acted and behold...
.... service was joy.
My friends, may you experience the joy of service today and all days.
Hey everyone! I thought this week I would highlight a video interview I did with Your Tango Experts that just got released last week about how to use other people to actually get to know yourself better. Check out my two cents, as well as the other incredible women who were interviewed on this subject.
Like what you see? Register for my new webinar training: "Discover The 3 Reasons Why Health Coaches Struggle To Meet Their Own Health & Weight Goals Plus 3 Steps To Get Back On Track."
It's a webinar designed for health coaches but can really apply to anyone who has tried to be healthy, but just keeps seeming to come up against resistance to making the diet and lifestyle changes needed to illicit true transformation.
I want to be bigger...
Wait... is that OK to say?
Women don't generally want to be bigger, do they?
I have clients almost daily talk about how they wish they were smaller. They don't always say those words exactly, but that's what they mean. They say things like, "I just wish I weighed a little less," or "I just don't feel comfortable when my thighs rub together," or even, "If I could just get back the size I was a year ago, I would be happy."
When speaking with a client the other day I asked her what she thought of when she heard the word bigger. She immediately answered that it elicits images of fat rolls, jiggling thighs, and flabby bellies. She said it makes her think of feeling oversized in a small airplane seat and the tightness of a pair jeans around her waist. That's all without a qualifier. Just the simple word "bigger."
There's something wrong with this...
Having the idea that our current manifested form must be smaller than it is now, is just flat out a waste of time. Your ability to exist, your right to exist, is not affected by the size of your body. You deserve to be here now. You deserve to take up the space you take up, and it this space most definitely doesn't determine your worth.
Today, I am here to point out how good the word big can be. To me, it's in the ranks of expanding, broadening, accepting, allowing, and even, perfection.
What if bigger meant we want to love in a bigger way? What if it meant we want to take the bigger stance? What if it meant we want to expand our minds and broaden our hearts?
I want to live a life that's big.
My life won't shrink in the face of adversity. It will expand around it and enclose it in bigness and in wholeness.
I want my ears and eyes to open bigger.
I don't want to only see the size of a person or shallowly admire the ripple of their muscles or comment only on the symmetry of their face. I want to hear their warm, soothing laugh and see their sharp mind.
I want to see the bigger picture.
If I remember to see from this higher place maybe I will see that I'm not so different from them and they're not so different from me. We all have the same spark of life. The same thing keeps all our hearts beating and our lungs breathing. That's the bigger way of looking at it.
I want my mind to be pushed to its limits; expanded. I want it to get bigger every day.
I want to fill it up to the brim with experiences, lessons, knowledge, and different philosophies.
I want to have more connection, a tie to a bigger purpose.
I want to express this purpose boldly, fiercely and in a big way. I don't want to feel small, insignificant, trapped and uninspired.
I want to feel more. I want to usher in the big emotions with grace and dignity.
I am human after all, a manifested, seemingly separate being that chose to come to this time and place on Earth to experience separation, in order to transform. So bring on the longings, the sadnesses, the anger. They are just proof that there is something to be missed beyond the scope of my current, small understanding.
Next time you say you want to be smaller or imply as much, think about what you're really saying. Think about how the attitude of wanting to shrink actually effects all other areas of your life.
When you are constantly desiring to be smaller, there is a possibility that this feeling is spilling over into other aspects of our lives, and ultimately holding you back from the expansive bigness you are here to experience.
So what do you think? Do you want to be bigger too?
Ever feel like the holidays send you into a spiral of overwhelm and stress? From money to familial button-pushing, to your routine being bombed with all the travel, it can be a hard time to feel peaceful. This week's blog post guides you through the Art of Letting Go, so that you can find that peaceful place even in the midst of chaos.