When you think about commitment how does it make you feel?
Some people will say something as extreme as: “It makes me feel trapped.” “It feels heavy and serious.” or maybe just, “Commitment is boring.” “It feels like the spontaneity is gone.”
And yes, parts of these statements could be true.
Commitment implies discipline. It takes a certain level of personal responsibility.
When I say commitment, your mind may be going directly to romantic commitments, or professional commitments, or social engagements that you’ve “committed” to.
But what about things like; commitment to your morning routine, your movement habits, your nutrition guidelines, your personal development or, even, your commitment to your own happiness.
You see, commitment to yourself is something that not a lot of us prioritize.
We can see this in the number of people who feel overwhelmed, overworked, and under-appreciated.
We can see this lack of self-commitment when we look at the statistics of our nation’s health and happiness.
Commitment doesn’t have to be about “powering through” or “pushing harder,” or “getting through it.” In fact, it could be the exact opposite.
Commitment could mean, being committed to listening to the signals that your body is telling you. It could mean we commit to taking a break when we feel like it. It could mean we choose to say no to social engagements when we feel exhausted after a long week at work, even if we said we would be there.
At times there may be an unavoidable element of ‘pushing through’ that must happen to reach a larger goal. But it most certainly doesn’t have to be painful or extremely unenjoyable.
To me; commitment is keeping the larger picture in mind and knowing that the day-to-day stuff might not be super amazing all the time, but you know, deep down, it's moving you towards a bigger purpose.
To me; commitment is the discipline of consciously choosing, every day, every minute, what is best for your highest self.
To choose the activities, the people, the projects that move you into a bigger, more loving version of yourself is the most useful commitment I can think of.
Because if we aren’t committed to ourselves, then we’re out of luck.
So look at your life.
Instead of being committed to your stressful job, to your strenuous exercise routine, your restrictive diet, or to your packed calendar, choose you.
Choose to make the commitment and use your discipline and personal responsibility to take care of yourself.