Do you ever feel overwhelmed?
Like, you look out over your day, the upcoming week and just have no idea how you're supposed to 'get it all done'?
What about feeling like if one more person asks you to do one more thing you might explode?
Overwhelm is THING these days.
Most people I talk to at my workshops, in my mentoring calls, and in my coaching sessions tell they feel burnt out, overwhelmed and at the end of their ropes when it comes to the thought of changing or adding one more thing to their to-do list.
The busyness issue is real.
Personally, I refuse to be “busy”. It feels disempowering. I decide where, why, when and how I do things, and that’s based on my priorities. When I feel overwhelmed I know that that is an indication that my priorities aren't clear. The overwhelm feeling is the indicator to me that I need to check in with what's really important to me.
One of the biggest hold ups with the people that I talk to is they feel like they CAN'T take things off their plate. Or they feel like they MUST do it all. Or they don't slow down enough to even think about what could be removed. They're just constantly reacting to everything. They feel totally powerless and are just reacting to one person's request after another.
So here's my four tips for when you're feeling overwhelmed to claim your power and get your priorities clear again.
1. Become really, really hard to get a hold of for at least one day (maybe more days).
This means: no social media, no texting, no phone calls, no listening to other people's demands on your time. Part of why we might feel overwhelmed is that we are putting other people's needs before our own. That is a recipe for burn out. So just for one day; become really, really hard to get ahold of. Maybe you camp out in a coffee shop getting the stuff that YOU need to get done, done. Maybe you go to the spa and treat yo' self. Maybe you just take a day to be completely disconnected at home; a "sick" day if you will. But take a day, or four where you're focusing on YOU.
2. Get in the habit of using a planner.
If you don't use an online calendar of some sort, it's time to bite the bullet and just do it. Seriously. One reason why people get stuck in the overwhelm state is because they don't have systems. Their poor brains are trying to keep track of everything. Google calendar is my tool of choice (I LIVE by my calendar) but there are others like iCal or Outlook, but pick one, and move all your appointments, work meetings, personal coffee dates, EVERYTHING to it. I’m strongly recommending an online calendaring system because you can create reminders, recurring events, and access it from your phone, your computer or your iPad, so you’ll never be without it. Yes, it will take a little bit of learning how to use on the front end, but you will be so happy you did.
3. Have medicinal grade essential oils diffusing around you as much as possible.
There's this almost magical effect having pure medicinal grade essential oils diffusing around you, and that is that they calm your nervous system, allow you to focus, and help you remember the world is not ending if you don't get your email inbox cleared out. We can use essential oils to help motivate us, to help cheer us up, or to give us a sense of reassuring peace. They can ground up and help us remember to breathe. They boost our immune system, they support our organs, and so much more. They are truly one of the BEST tools we have for our mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health. Use them! If you're in Montana, check out my live upcoming classes below or you're always welcome to book a complimentary one on one medicinal essential oils session with me here: http://bit.ly/freeoilsconsult
4. Ask yourself what is really important to you.
This piggy backs on the priorities aspect of overwhelm I talked about earlier. But knowing what you TRULY value in life is of utmost importance when we're talking about living a life that feels fulfilling. It's easy to get swept up in the wave of watching what other people are doing and feeling like we must do more or be different, or feeling like you have to go the extra mile for work, or adding IN a new exercise routine without taking anything else OUT of your already overloaded life. But what do YOU actually value? What do YOU actually want to do with your time in the day? Maybe you've been pushing yourself super hard at work because you think you should want to make a lot of money, but really you value cozy time at home with your family. Maybe you've been driving your kids all over the state to soccer tournaments, but your values really don't align with spending lots of time at practices and games? Get REAL with yourself here. What is really important to you?