You are not special.
But you are the ONLY you.
But CLAIM your worth, every moment.
Not taking “no” for an answer.. isn’t the secret to success.
Working hard is necessary, but there are plenty of people who work much harder than you or me and make much, much less money.
How do you explain that?
If we keep telling the same old tired “secrets to success” stories of how we worked harder than everyone else, we didn’t take “no” for an answer, or we stayed expertly focused, when other people were all over the place.. we’re perpetuating the narrative of “the harder you work; the more you deserve.”
Or “the more rejection you take, the more you deserve praise.”
Or ultimately, what I call the pain equals pleasure principle.
The more shit you take, the more enjoyment you deserve.
I call major BS.
If this is the way we live… when do we get to ENJOY our lives?
After we retire and we’ve forgotten how to relax and finally have free time but feel like we have no “purpose”?
After we’ve made millions of dollars and have severe adrenal fatigue, so we feel depressed and exhausted?
What about the people that work hard all their lives and have nothing to show for it? Do they just have to keep working hard forever?
This is not the world I choose to add to or live in.
In my world, ease gets me farther than struggle.
In my world, grace is more effective than mindless hustle.
In my world, wholesome, true enjoyment is always the main goal.
In my world, enjoying the process is much more important than the destination.
We can do hard things, but not for the end goal.. we do the hard things because that is how we grow and it is what is required of us.
It is subtle and paradoxical because there is absolutely “hard work” involved in changing an entire paradigm and creating a life you love hard things and all… it is a commitment to choosing placing value in a different place.
It requires discipline, no doubt, to shift your mindset and value your alignment with YOUR OWN truth over what society tells you.
But, our souls want badly to do our “work” and learn the lessons they came here to learn.
But the pain equals pleasure principle we all tend to operate under, doesn’t serve us in this purpose. It makes everything harder and keeps us slaves to our egos.
Believing that pain equals pleasure, makes us feel that we don’t deserve the goodness and ease of our aligned work.
True humility is the realization that conventionally validated success or any success for that matter has nothing to do with us and us “making” it, but it is the universe doing all things through us.
We are simply an instrument.
This is bad news for the ego; but one of the most liberating and relieving truths for the soul.
You are not not responsible for anything except staying aligned with your own goodness and focusing on brining your soul-given purpose to each small task you are offered.
When you get out of your own way, and give up the idea that you could ever “make” anything happen, and start instead letting the universe create through you; miracles happen.
So stay humble and stop telling yourself you’ve got to work so damn hard.