You Need A Stay-Cation

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Who here feels like they need a vacation? 

We are a seriously crazy society of go go go. 

The amount of stress we are under on a normal every day basis is something our biology has never seen before. Even if you don’t believe you have a particularly stressful job or don’t feel particularly overwhelmed there are a lot of stressors we are subjected to on a regular basis.h

Blue light from screens has been shown to be very stressful on our nervous systems. Activating them and not allowing our hormonal system to calm down at night. Making it hard to sleep and really get into a rest and relaxation state, in which our bodies does so much repairing and recuperating.

Toxic chemicals from cleaners, cars, make-up, shampoo, lotion, etc are constantly being added to our blood stream. Loud noises like airplanes, cars, ambulances, music has been shown to put our nervous systems on high alert. This creates difficulties producing sex hormones and getting into the rest and digest nervous system state. Driving in traffic. Driving at all. High intensity exercise and lots of sitting, a combination that can be very shocking to the body. Hyper connectivity and always being “plugged in” via the internet.  Alcohol. Fast food. Lack of gentle, consistent movement to move our fluids and lymph throughout the body. The pressure to look good, have lots of energy, get shit done, crush it.. that never seems to subside. All these inputs in our society are definitely adding to our almost subconscious stress levels. 

I could go on and on. But the point is that we are under extreme amounts of stress, some perceived, but a lot unperceived. Our human bodies, which have shallow adaptations to survive in this situation, but have not deeply evolved to be able to thrive in it, are struggling. The amount of “adrenal fatigue” or more accurately called ‘HPA axis dysregulation’ is alarming. Not to mention hormone imbalances, sleeping issues, depression, anxiety, and much more.

Most of us think that everyone but us is somehow making this situation of a high stress environment work for them, but the truth is.. most people actually are not living lives of full vitality. Most adults in the US are in adrenal fatigue at some level. It is rare to find an adult in the US that doesn't have an addiction to their smartphones, social media, and news. Most adults in the US are definitely struggling with the status quo of high stress and have issues relaxing and disconnecting.

A vacation would be great. A real, true getaway. Going to some far off beach somewhere with zero internet or phone access and totally and completely unplug. But..the truth is, most of us couldn’t afford it, or we couldn't get the time off work, or if we didn’t stay at least two weeks we wouldn’t actually be able to relax. We’d be thinking about work and all that would need to get done once we got back. Or we have the kids and it’s not a real hands-off vacation but a mess of dolphin swimming, packed recreation excursions all topped off with heavy drinking and gambling at night. You definitely don't feel rested and relaxed after a "vacation" like that. 

We also need to disconnect from our day to day busy lives more often than once or twice a year. Relaxation is actually a practice, so we need to do it consistently or we forget how to do it. We NEED time away and unplugged if we have any hope of living a life that is fulfilled, vital, and intentional. We need to reconnect on a regular basis to ourselves and really relax and unhook. 

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That’s why I’m committed to taking a stay-cation at least once per month. The perks of a stay-cation are: 

  • cheaper
  • less travel time
  • less planning 
  • get to know your own backyard a little better 
  • a lot more I’m probably not thinking of right now.. 

My simple parameters for a stay-cation are:

  • Spend at least 2 days and one night somewhere no farther than 50 miles from home. You can also just stay home.
  • Turn your phone on airplane mode
  • Turn your wireless router off or don’t bring your computer or do not connect it to the internet. 
  • Make plans that are all revolved around being present with the people you are with. Or do it alone and don’t talk to anyone. 
  • Do something that loves on your body (hot yoga, restorative yoga, massage, whatever!) 
  • Any other parameters you want to set for yourself. 

This last weekend Sean (the hubs) and I stayed at The Sacajawea Hotel. “The Sac” as it’s known in these parts is in Three Forks, Montana, which is one of the most significant points on the Lewis and Clark Trail. Three Forks is the the headwaters of the Missouri River. And in Three Forks, Montana, Sacajawea was reunited with her brother and brokered safe passage for the explorers. The Sacajawea Hotel was constructed in 1910. 

Pretty cool, right? 

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It was the perfect blend of ease and luxury as it’s just 20 miles from our house, but feels like a whole different world. If you’re in the area (or going to be in the area) I highly recommend looking into staying at “The Sac.” 

That being said, a stay-cation doesn't have to be super swanky. It can be super basic. It can mean putting your phone on airplane mode, turn your wifi router off, and just reading for the weekend; totally disconnected. 

No matter where you're at, you've got the means to disconnect and I guarantee you'll be so happy you did. 

Read This & Feel Better Immediately

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What will you do with your one & only most wild & precious life?

We can get so bogged down in the details.

We can get so focused on what we don’t have & what we aren’t doing & what we can’t seem to make happen.

But this, right here, right now, is YOUR life & I bet if you look around you can find a lot of stuff you do have, things you are doing, & what you are making happen.

A simple shift of perspective from constricted to expansive.

Closed to open.

Small to big.

That’s all it takes.

A deep breath in.
A long, happy sigh out.

Come back to you.

Come back to the Truth.
You are good.


You are precious.


All moments have led you up to this one, to experiencing exactly what you are experiencing.


No one else has ever gotten to be right where you are, right now. And that is the most valuable fact.

There you are.

I’m with you.

A Self Care Ritual

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While I’m on my period I always find I need to take a little extra time for myself.

Our periods are such an amazing time to slow down, turn inward, and really harness our feminine power. In this day and age I think a lot women despise their periods. We get cramps, we’re moody and sensitive, and everything just seems harder. When I was on the pill I would purposefully skip my periods because they seemed like such a bother.

But now, I’ve realized how incredibly sacred cycling is. I’ve started to embrace this time of the month as the perfect time for reflection and deep self love. During our periods are when we are most spiritually astute and in tune. It’s when “the veil” between worlds is thinnest, so to speak. That’s why we get sensitive. We get “moody”, which is really just patronizing speak for being able to pick up on a lot of complex emotions and feelings. When we are in this ultra connected state we have to ‘do’ less and ‘be’ more.

Cramping, nausea, heat regulation issues, and the other physical symptoms of our periods, when extreme, can be a sign of hormonal imbalances as well as disconnection from our feminine side. In a way it’s “She” calling out for us to listen to Her.

A lot of hormonal imbalance comes from our bodies having a hard time detoxifying and processing synthetic hormones from birth control, artificial fragrances, and chemicals in our food that act similar to hormones. So if you have extremely painful cramping or other extreme symptoms, there are a lot of very successful natural ways to balance hormones. Reach out to me and we can get you set up on a natural path to healing. 

Even with well-balanced hormones and a good practice of listening to ourselves and self care, we can still get some light cramping, fatigue, headaches, etc. Our bodies are doing A LOT internally doing that time, so we need to give them a break. 

For me, the second day of my period always seems to be the day where my body really calls for some tenderness. So I’ve developed a self care ritual that makes me felt cared for, marks this special time of the month, and creates a sense of trust between myself and my body. It also supports detoxification of hormones and soothes any symptoms I might be having. 

 

Step 1: Do something physical to get the blood moving. I love to do yoga because it feels delicious. For a home practice I love Yoga by Candace on youtube or Jennifer Pansa’s Earth Elements classes on YogiApproved.com. Make sure this something gentle. During our periods exercising should be smooth, flowing, and gentle. No hardcore workouts please.  

Step 2: Dry brushing. This is an ancient practice of moving the lymph (the body’s garbage disposal system) towards the heart and lymph nodes where it is processed. To learn more about it or to see a “dry skin brush” go here

Step 3: Take a cold as cold can be shower for 3-5 minutes with the shower water hitting you on the heart. This is obviously very shocking, but you’ll be surprised how amazing you feel afterwards. It’s also a powerful detoxifying practice as it act as a kind of water pressure cleaning of your capillaries as your blood is pumped to your extremities. 

Step 4: Anoint yourself with oils. In Ayurvedic and Chinese medicine each person has a “dosha” or a constitution. For example, in Ayurvedic language I am a “pitta” dosha, or a fire constitution from Chinese medicine. Since I am fiery, I want to use oils that are “cooling.” Sesame oil is cooling, whereas coconut oil is warming. So people who fall into the air or earth doshas could use coconut oil, it’s better for me to use sesame oil on my body. Find your dosha here.

For this step, I take sesame oil plus 12 drops of CPTG (it is important to use CPTG essential oils) lavender essential oil and 12 drops frankincense essential oil. I then apply this oil all over my body while massaging myself and telling my body how much I cherish it and how lovely it is. The gist here is rub yourself down with some oil while telling your body nice things. 

Step 5: Soak in an epsom salt bath. My recipe is 2 cups epsom salt, 1 cup baking soda, and 20 drops essential oils of choice. I love serenity blend or deep blue blend for relaxing and feeling peaceful. 

Step 6: Soak in the bath and read something you’re excited about or listen to some relaxing music or meditate.

Do this and you’ll feel like a totally new person. I promise. 

**If you’d like to get some CPTG essential oils at 25% off their retail price, please contact me at clara@revolutionarylifestyle.com 

 

 

 

 

Is Your Body Calling to Slow Down?

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This week I have been feeling a call to turn inward.

 

In the past I might have viewed this feeling as laziness, lack of motivation, or just generally that “something was wrong with me.” I would have fought it. I would have pushed at it and said, “C’mon, get moving! We’ve got STUFF to DO! I can’t have you moping around and making me feel like I’m stuck in a vat of honey all the time.” 

 

But now, with more discernment and understanding of myself and my tendencies, I don’t see this feeling as something that needs to be “pushed” through or changed in anyway. I simply recognize it as my inner being calling for a phase of rebuilding, recuperating, retreating inwards. 

 

To exhale, we must inhale. 

 

For the summer to come we’ve got to have a winter. 

 

These are the truths of nature and of life.

 

In a society that values “getting shit done” and “productivity” and material gain above almost anything else; slowing down and giving up productivity and material gain in exchange for more time spent ‘being’ with ourselves can feel almost shameful. 

 

That’s where that voice urging my desire for stillness to go away comes from. It comes from the idea that if I stop and slow down and listen to the parts of me that may want to some rest, some peace, some re-membering of something deeper, that I will somehow loose my spot in the proverbial line of life. That if I don’t “keep up” I’ll be unloved and left behind and also, *gasp* that I might not be a “good” person. A “good” person works really hard, sacrifices, and pushes through discomfort, after all. 

 

Right? 

 

Not for me. I have experienced being that exhausted person, and I’m willing to be most of us have or are experiencing that hollow, fatigue-worn place of attempting to “do it all.” It’s not fun. It’s not what I want my life to look like.

 

So when I feel the call to turn inward I do it. It doesn’t mean my entire life comes to a half. There are a thousand ways to do one thing, and I figure out a way to put my to-do list on the chopping block, eliminate unnecessary tasks (hire a cleaning lady or let the house get dirty, cook simpler, easier meals or eat the same thing over and over again, take a bath instead of checking the email at night), and give myself a little extra wiggle room in my calendar. Take a self-care day. Dance. Go for long walks surrounded by nature. 

 

One thing that I love to do when I’m feeling that inward call is to energetically explore my heart space. The heart space is where we experience our inner innocence. In the space of the heart we can actually experience the part of ourselves that is completely clear and pure. The part of us that is never tarnished by experiences, perceived mistakes and failures. The energetic space of the heart is the place we need to ground in to when we are feeling unworthy, shameful or broken. 

 

As gift to all of you I have recorded a practice I use during these times of internal reconnection. Please download it here (https://www.clarawisner.com/meditations) and use for yourself if you feel called. 

 

Shame is Not a Motivational Speaker

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t’s kinda crazy how we think using shame is going to motivate us into “staying in line.”

When you want someone else to do something for you.. do you “shame” them?

I hope not. When I’m asking a favor of someone or I want to motivate someone to do something I generally find something to compliment about them (authentically of course) or assure them how powerful/strong/smart/resilient they are.

It works so much better to treat people with kindness. 

So.. if we want ourselves to make a change, why don’t we “butter” ourselves up a bit?

Why don’t we assure ourselves how loved, loving and lovable we are?

Shame makes us shrink. It makes us scared, fearful, and downtrodden.

Love makes us blossom & expand.

When we speak #onlylove to ourselves we start to see the incredible amount of potential we have to create the changes we want to see in our lives and the world.

Shame is not a motivational speaker and you can never get more love through fear, threats, or misery.

Only Love creates more love.

So give up self-shaming right here and right now. I'm with you. 

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The Myth of "Doing It All"

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Sometimes we feel like we should be able to do it all.

We have this sense that “everyone else” is doing more than we are;. That we’ll somehow “fall behind” if we don’t go a thousand miles a minute.

Better “keep up”!

We have this idea that we should be able to eat “clean” all the time, workout (hard) every day, take care of our families, be chronically sleep deprived and still function well, be successful, make lots of money, have lots of things, have awesome relationships with our parents & have close knit circle of friends... the list goes on.

No wonder we all feel so f*cking tired.

Of course we can’t do all that.

News flash! We can have EVERYTHING our hearts desire, but we’ve better take care of ourselves during the process of getting it, or else what’s the point?

The world needs the best version of you, you can be. The world needs your rested, cared for, & FULL self.

Self-care is not selfish. It’s one of the best things you can do for other people. Letting yourself rest, have downtime, and eat as much as you want, is a gift to yourself and the people around you most. 

When we don't allow yourself to dream, value your inner guidance system, pay attention to what your body is calling for, our relationships suffer. There is no doubt. Our relationships thrive when we are thriving. 

I’m so over women feeling like they have to wear all the hats. Feeling like their dreams require them to sacrifice. Feeling that they need to do all the things and look good doing it.

We don’t.

There will always be phases of intensity when we talk about building dreams, but that doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to let yourself ENJOY every moment of it.

So go ahead.
Give into the pleasure of the moment.
Relish an extra hour in bed; I promise the world won’t collapse and you won’t get fired.
Eat another piece of pizza.

One thing I just did: mark a day off on your calendar as “a personal day” and do absolutely nothing else but recuperate & lounge.

What are you going to do to take care of yourself today?

What to do with Worry

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I heard a quote from Abraham Hicks the other day: “Worry is just putting yourself in the future without the resources you have right now.” 

As the ever-loving Universe would have it we’re always being offered lessons. The exact right information comes at the exact right moment when we’re ready to receive it. Hearing this statement was one of those synchronistic moments for me.  

I am a very anxious person by nature. My brain is on hyper alert all the time. I’m the type of person that wants to solve everything and everything done right now. Someone doesn’t text me back immediately? They’re probably dead. You don’t answer the phone? You’re dead in my mind. My husband leaves the house in a car. He’s probably going to die. 

I know how ridiculous this sounds (although I’m willing to bet a lot more people than you would think can relate to these thoughts pretty well). Luckily, with my spiritual practice and the effort I’ve put into the development of my higher self, these anxious, crazy thoughts don’t really get a hold on me at all anymore. I can watch them and let them go. 

But my anxiety does create more struggle in my life sometimes. I get very anxious about returning emails. I get anxious about not “taking advantage” of my time. I get anxious about if I’m being productive enough. I get anxious about planning things and making sure plans are carried out.The list goes on. So when I heard this quote about worrying being putting yourself in the future where you don’t have the resources you have right now it clicked. 

When we worry or get anxious about things that might or might not happen we aren’t giving ourselves any good options. We’re literally putting ourselves out in total pure potential land (the future) with no grounding presence of now. We don’t have our breath. We don’t have our feet on the ground. We don’t have our five senses. We don’t know what we’ll feel like, or how much sleep we might have get. 

So what do we do with worry? What do we do when our powerful little monkey minds just spin out on some awful scenario or tangent? 

We come back to now. We take a deep breath. We feel our feet on the ground. We engage our senses. 

We ask ourselves, “Is there something I can do about this situation right now?” 

Now, if you were worrying about whether or not you left the coffee maker on, you could technically do something about that. You could go back home and check the coffee maker. You could text your partner at home and ask them to check it. So if there does happen to be something you can do about worry subject. Go ahead and DO IT. 

However, if there is nothing you can do about the situation you are worrying about right now, then this is when you can start to engage presence and take your power back. You shift your focus. Focus on your sternum, or your heart, or somewhere in your physical body. Close your eyes and breathe into that place. Notice how the air feels on your skin. Taste. Smell. Be present. 

And just like that we’ve let go of worry and reclaimed our power, right now, in the present where we belong. 

This may seem very simple, and it is. But that doesn’t mean it should be discounted. The answer is more often than not..simple. It does take practice and discipline to focus our minds, so although this can work really well in the moment, it’s also something that can be more effective if you calm and focus your mind on a regular basis through a meditation or mindfulness practice of some sort. 

Peace be with you, my friends. 

Non-Toxic Living

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If you saw my recent posts on social media you know I’ve deemed the month of May “non-toxic living” month. On instagram (@revolutionarylifestyle) and in my free facebook group (Self Love Community) I’ve been posting daily videos on how to detox your life and why you’d want to. All these tips are real life, practical things that I actually do. I’m also doing a pretty kick ass giveaway (free stuff!). Get all the details and follow along via facebook or instagram

 

Today on the blog I want to talk about non-toxic living and self love. We tend to separate the physical from the mental/emotional and separate the mental/emotional from the spiritual, but if you read my stuff, you know it’s kind of my thing to address all four of these aspects at the same time. I truly believe we can’t really talk about physical health without addressing mental and emotional health, and we can’t talk about mental and emotional health without talking about spiritual health. 

So what would using non toxic cleaning products have to do with our spiritual health, you wonder? 

Well… everything. 

 

We are incredibly intricate and unfathomably complicated beings. The way our cells function is affected by the vibrational environment our bodies are currently in. As I wrote about last week, we are not victims of our energetic environment, but we can take responsibility for giving our cells the easiest time of it. We also must understand that we are inextricably linked to the Earth and when we hurt or endanger the Earth we also hurt and endanger ourselves. 

When we shift into the paradigm of self-love we start to care deeply about what we put inside our bodies, what we put on the outside of our bodies, what we surround ourselves with, and the health of our precious Earth. The difference between selfishness and self-love is vast, and one of the most notable differences, is the fact that self-love has no limits and expands to include the entire Earth, whereas selfishness and materialism is limited and tends to hurt the Earth.  And this is how living a non toxic lifestyle, taking our own health into our hands, respecting the Earth, and self-love all tie together. 

 

There are variations when it comes to toxicity, as with all things. For example, red dye #40 is a known carcinogen and petroleum based substance, but 15 million pounds of it are used each year in our food. This is something we know for sure we should all be avoiding. But then there are things like artificial flavorings that can be perfectly harmless or toxic depending on what they are made from. Europe has banned 1,300 cosmetic chemicals and the US has banned 11. So there’s all sorts of opinions. There are variations in toxicity and we all have the responsibility to take on this process of learning about toxins and decide what we, at our particular phase of life and capacity, can prioritize. Choose your battles wisely. 

 

But.. a quote that I come back to again and again is, “How we do one thing is how we do all things.” 

I know that this quote can sound unfair, or unrealistic, but it can also be a relieving and simplifying idea to build your life around. 

When I allow my food to be toxic, my thoughts will become toxic, my emotions and my spiritual connection will be blocked. So why don’t I choose to leave out toxicity and focus on natural, whole, from the Earth, for the Earth, food (aka organic). Why don’t I decide to not support companies that make toxic cosmetic products and harm my mother Earth and create my own facial oils from certified pure therapeutic grade oils or buy products from companies that have similar values as me? Why don’t I buy the biodegradable, fragrance-free laundry and dishwashing soap so that there isn’t a disconnect between the way I treat my body and the way I treat the Earth? 

These are really small, little shifts, and in the grand scheme of things they may not make all that much of a difference when we talk about global impact. But how you do one thing is how you do all things, and when you treat your body well, you start to see your mental capacity for goodness expand. When your mental capacity for goodness expands, your emotions lighten up, and your purpose becomes more and more clear. 

So let’s all get on board with this non-toxic living month and start to detoxify our bodies, our minds, our feelings, and our spiritual connection. 

If you’re with me, comment below, join the facebook group, or follow along on instagram. Can’t wait to hear from you. 

How to Energetically Protect Yourself

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We live in a society that can scoff at the intuitive, energetic, and sensitive. 

But the truth is, even if we don't know it, we talk about energetic concepts all the time. 

We say things like, "She just rubbed me the wrong way." or "I didn't like that place it was creepy." 

We are energetic beings. Even with zero education around the energetic, most of us are incredibly good at reading situations, people, and experiences.

Think about the last time you got a "hunch" that was something off about a particular situation. What about the last time you made eye contact with a stranger and you felt that spark of deep connection? These are glimpses into the intuitive powers we all posses, but most of us have no idea how to use.

Being tapped into the energetic can highly benefit us. In situations it can be very useful to be able to keep your energy "separate" from someone else's and it can also be incredibly enjoyable to extend and link your energy with a friend or loved one. But to do both of these well, and much more subtle variations of energetic disengagement and connection, we must become more conscious of our own energy. 

Some of the most successful people in the world have unwittingly tapped into the energetic and used that knowledge to connect with people, influence situations, and create movements. 

On the subject of energetic protection I tend to have a dissenting opinion. I believe we don't actually need to "protect" ourselves from anything. That would mean we could be a victim of someone else's energy. I am a firm believer in radical responsibility and always encourage an empowering mindset over a victim mindset.

When someone says something like, "I can't be around her, she's too negative," that is someone who is not attuned to their own energy and allows someone else's energy to affect them as if they didn't have any control whatsoever.

We may very well not want to hang out with negative people (who does?!) and we can most certainly set boundaries and make conscious choices not to hang around people who are downers, but at some point in our lives we are going to have to be around people who are negative or rub us the wrong way, and we have to take full responsibility for our reactions to that energy when we do. 

I know humans are incredibly powerful energetic beings, and as long as we have a little knowledge and conscious comprehension of energy, we can actually transmute any energy that is not our own and send it back out into the world transformed. This way we actually start to leave a trail of empowerment wherever we go. We don't need to be afraid of anyone or anything's energy, as long as we are aware enough to be able to connect into our own heart space and let what is happening in us to flow through us. 

Protecting Your Energy: 

When in a situation that feels overwhelming, out of your control, or you're around someone who always seems to be pushing your buttons, you can use this simple practice. 

Step 1: Ask yourself this question: "What percentage of the way I feel right now is mine?" 

Step 2: When you have a number in mind, let's say it's 20%. Then you can take a deep breath into your heart and release the breath while saying to yourself or out loud, "I send this energy that is not mine, back from where it came; blessed and transformed." You have transmuted energy from heaviness into a blessing. 

Step 3: As far as the 20% (or whatever number you came up with) that is yours, take another breath and imagine your heart expanding to fit this energy inside it. Feel the heat, the tightness, the tingling sensation or whatever comes up that is the feeling you don't like in your physical body. Stay with this feeling with zero judgment until it starts to dissolve, and transform it into love. 

**If this small practice doesn't seem to dissipate your energy in this situation or you'd like to follow along with an audio version of this practice download the "Emotional Alchemy Audio Practice." 

Playing with Energetic Connection: 

It is ideal to have a friend or loved one that is willing to do this practice with you. Although you can test it out on anyone you happen to be interacting with and see what happens. 

Step 1: If you're with someone who is participating with you sit across from one another, in a chair on or on the ground. One of you will now try to "reach out" energetically to the other, while the one doing the receiving stays open and accepting of the "reaching out" energy. 

Step 2: Do the same thing starting with the other partner. (If you are not doing this with a partner, then during a conversation or interaction you are having try to "reach out" energetically, and then try to receive  energetically.) 

Step 3: Discuss with each other what it felt like to "reach out" and what it felt like to receive. Or, sans partner, just notice how the people you are interacting with respond differently when you're in the receiving mode or in the giving mode. 

Step 4: One partner tries to extend their energy again, but this time the other partner tries to "shut down" or "put up a wall" to block the attempts at the reaching out.

Step 5: Discuss the differences between how the receiving energy, extending energy, and shutting down energy felt. 

This exercise is a great way to practice getting a "feel" for energy and familiarize your conscious mind with it. 

Practice these two  exercises and let me know what you notice by commenting below. 

 

 

I Don't Play That Game

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This week I’ve had a lot of self doubt appear.

If you’re an entrepreneur you probably know this feeling well. That little voice that says, “what if you’re crazy?” “what if you don’t have what it takes to do what you’re doing?” “You’re not as good as everyone else,” and on and on. 

If you’re not an entrepreneur I’m willing to bet a million bucks you’ve experienced self-doubt in some other form. Self-doubt always rears it’s ugly head when we’re trying to change something or do something out of the ordinary. Maybe you’ve questioned whether or not you’re ever going to find a partner after a breakup or the 100th bad date. “You’re going to end up alone.” Maybe you’ve heard the voice when you wanted to reach a certain health or lifestyle goal. “You’re not thin and bendy enough to do yoga!” 

I think you get the point. It’s ain’t pretty. 

So.. that’s what’s been happening to me this week and I want to share a new practice that has helped me to disengage from the self doubt, make myself feel better, and move forward.

This practice is very simple. Here it is, when you hear that voice of self-doubt, state to yourself, “No, I don’t play that game.” 

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When the voice says, “Your thighs are so big you’re never going to be taken seriously as a health and wellness coach.” You say right back, “No, I don’t play that game.” I don’t play the game where the way my body looks gets to make me feel bad or unworthy of what I want. I play the game where my body is precious, sacred, and beautiful, and also where I am SO much more than my body.

When the voice says, “You’re crazy to think that you could make $12,000 a month passively. Maybe some people can do it, but YOU never could.” I say right back, “I don’t play that game.” I play the game where the world is abundant, amazing, and earning a beautiful living is possible, easy, and simple.

When the voice says, “This is too hard. You better quit.” You say, “Nope. I don’t play that game.” I play the game that allows what is to be the way it is. I don’t resist any experience that is placed in front of me because I know life is always happening for me, not to me. I always can find a thought that feels good. I’m always preparing myself to be ready for the best possible thing to happen to me.

I play the games that I want to play. Not the ones that society sometimes seems to have forced upon me. 

When we disengage from the “game”, we simply refuse to engage with the thought patterns that hold us back from whatever we want to do; and we’ll see we never had to play those games in the first place. 

This doesn’t mean that the voice or the fears completely go away forever. It just means they become background noise instead of the main chorus. And with practice you’ll be able to unhook from ‘the games’ faster and with more ease.

Freedom is yours. It’s a choice in each moment. Don’t forget that. Using this mantra allows us to remember we can choose to disengage and get on with our awesomeness. 

 

 

Surrender and Ease: the Key to True Success

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Success and fulfillment are different, but they both require surrender. 

When we think of success we normally think of material things; a nice car, a big house, money, vacations, etc. But, when we think about fulfillment we normally think of something deeper. A job well done. A purpose met. A connection. Fulfillment is spiritual, where as success is more material. 

When we talk about either success or fulfillment we tend to refer to our profession or career. A career can definitely create success, but it also can bring a lot of fulfillment or un-fulfillment.

A lot of times when we talk about the success of our business ventures or careers, our health and wellness, or the fulfillment of our life's purpose we talk about all the “hard work” involved; all the struggle and pain we've had to endure or the time we had to “put in” to be where we are now. 

But right here; right now, I’m going to totally and completely disagree with this notion of necessary struggle; because in my life; I’ve always had the biggest breakthroughs, the most success and fulfillment when I let go; when I surrender. When I let things align. When I stop “trying” so damn hard all the time.

On some level we all tend to believe we don’t deserve good things to happen to us; that we need to or should be required to work super hard for all we desire.

But the truth is; the moment we focus on aligning with what feels good and let the rest go; is when true fulfillment happens.

THAT is when life gets good. 

You are good enough to have all you want.

You are deserving of all your desires.

You have permission to want what you want.

But don’t let the fact that you might not have it all right now make you play the victim.

The truth is you already have it all anyway. The truth is your true success and all the fulfillment you're looking for is already in your own heart. You've just got to re-member it. 

So I’m going to go totally against the grain and say that you will find true success and fulfillment when you let things be EASY.

When you find pleasure and joy in the work; not by banging your head against a wall and hustling until you squeeze the life out of your adrenals.

Life is meant to be fun, wild, and enjoyable.

Your work is your purpose; and that comes easily.

Stop the resistance. Make the choice. Stretch your heart open to fit whatever is happening inside of it.

Your only job is to breathe into whatever is happening right now; and appreciate it.

I’m with you.

The Importance of Pleasure (and the truth behind sugar cravings)

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Ever since the Love Rising podcast episode with Carli Jo  (listen to it here) I have been thinking a lot about pleasure and what it means, how I get it and why so many of us women struggle to experience and value it. 

I am not necessarily talking about sexual pleasure, although I'm also not not talking about sexual pleasure. The way we do one thing is the way we do all things. But for all intents and purposes we can just say we're talking about pleasure in a general sense. How much do we ENJOY our lives? Do we take pleasure in waking up? Going to sleep? In eating our food? In our body's movement? In playing with kids or pups? 

It's so funny how when something "pings" me, as the subject of pleasure did in our podcast conversation, it starts to show up everywhere. It's kind of like how you hear a word you've never heard before once and then you hear it everywhere. One of the lessons I've learned in the last couple years is to pay attention to these synchronicities as they normally lead me to healing breakthroughs or realizations. So.. as this synchronicity would have it, in my therapy appointment today, pleasure came up.

Without getting into too much detail, my therapist actually asked me, “where do you experience pleasure in your daily life?” 

And I stalled. 

I was left searching for a bit. 

When I did answer I said, "In yoga: when my breath, body, and mind, are all aligned." Once I can get my monkey mind to calm down and connect into the breath, yoga is a place that I consistently experience pleasure. There is a flowing grace that comes when you are internally present and aware of your body. There aren’t any stories going on in my mind; no threat of my phone buzzing or my computer dinging. When I know I am contained by the mat, the room, and the hour of time to just move and breathe and connect.

I am someone who takes the idea of pleasure pretty seriously already. This isn't the first time I've explored pleasure or flow. I've been wrapped up in that go, go, go lifestyle before and I know no matter what kind of success or astronomical levels of productivity you reach, if you're not enjoying it; it doesn't matter. So the fact that I have been so disconnected from my own pleasure lately is a little alarming and a great wake up call for me to tap back in to enjoying my daily life. Letting go of the masculine pushing/doing energy yet again and flow into that open receiving energy a little bit more. 

One thing that happens when I get pulled into that productivity equals worthiness mindset is that I start to crave sweets. And this totally makes sense. 

When we have a pleasure deficit in our lives we'll try to make up for it with quick shots of "junk" pleasure. Sugar, junk food, drinking alcohol, binge watching TV, etc, all these things give us the guise of pleasure and "taste" good at first, but leave us feeling disconnected and unfulfilled. Because what we really want is deep, juicy, wholesome pleasure. The pleasure that comes in ordinary moments of presence. The pleasure that comes from using all five of our senses in the present moment. 

I know that when I start to crave sweets or fall into my personal pattern of emotional eating.. I don't need more discipline. I don't need more "willpower", I actually need more slow, flowing, pleasure in my life. I need to turn inwards and notice the ecstatic pleasure of breathing, eating, BEING. 

If you find yourself always wanting ‘something sweet’ after dinner or having urges to go out and “let loose”, or just feeling generally ornery or lacking in enjoyment in life, in sex, in work; in everything; my invitation to you (and myself) is to go find something in everyday life that brings you pleasure and do it as much as you can. Try to find as much pleasure as possible in everyday moments. 

Find pleasure in savoring your coffee. Find pleasure in walking your dog. Find pleasure in driving to work. Find pleasure in eating your lunch. Find pleasure in the sun shine. 

Let’s all commit to more pleasure in our daily lives and I bet we’ll see some miraculous changes in our health and the health of the world.

3 Ways to Use Spring Energy to Your Advantage

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Hey Lovely... 

Have you been feeling that ripe and fertile spring energy rushing around yet? 

I am such a huge fan of embracing our cyclical nature. The idea that there is a time to rest and a time to go; a time to be and a time to do, serves me very well to remind myself that all things happen in perfect time. 

A very tangible way we all experience cycles is through the seasons. Winter is a time for inward reflection; for hibernation and being more still. Fall is a time for shedding layers; slowing down. Summer is a great time for travel, for going out and doing. Spring is that sweet and precious time of year when we typically feel ourselves ripening. We feel the potential to burst forth. The proverbial little buds of our blossoms of summer are starting to form. It's an innocent time of year, and, personally I just love it. 

I love to take the energy that each season brings and use it to my advantage. Here's three ways we can use this fresh and ripe energy of spring to bring us more joy, connection, and peace to our lives. 

1. Spring Cleaning 

This isn't very original, I know. But there's a very energetic reason that this is a traditional thing to do in the spring time. Spring is a time of that "out with the old, in with the new" energy. It's a great time to purge old clothes, stuff, and re-organize your house, room, drawers, desk, whatever. 

My invitation for you on this tip is to set aside one full day to do a "spring cleaning" sometime in April. You could do a deep clean of your house apartment or you could focus on going through your closet or drawers and making some trips to goodwill. 

You'll feel lighter and ready to take on whatever comes your way. 

2. Set One New Health & Wellness Goal 

January 1st the typical time that people set new health and wellness goals, but I've always though March or April would be a much better time because of this fresh burst of energy most of us get. I love the idea of harnessing this energy and putting it into a positive place that builds momentum. 

My invitation for you is to set one simple, straightforward goal that contributes to you feeling like you're doing something nice for yourself this spring. This could be anything from committing to drink half your body weight in ounces of pure, filtered water each day to making sleep more of a priority. 

Here are few ideas of goals to set: 

  • read that self help book you've had sitting on your bed stand for months 
  • wake up 10 min earlier and spend 10 minutes contemplative silence or meditation (download my free guided self-love meditation
  • drink half your body weight in ounces of pure, filtered water
  • commit to having tea with a friend once a week 
  • take one Sunday a month completely off screens 
  • Try a new type of exercise class 

Bonus tip: One thing that always gets me extra excited about new goals is to buy something fun that goes along with it. If I'm going to try out a new type of exercise class maybe I'll buy a new workout outfit so I'm excited about going. If you're going to drink more water, buy yourself a fancy new hydroflask and some doTERRA wild orange essential oil (see the giveaway below to win some!) so you can have lovely flavored water with you at all time. 

3. Change Up Your Normal Routine 

This one can look a lot of different ways. The energy of spring is all about freshness and our daily routines can get a little stale through the end of winter. We can get kind of stuck in a rut. To use the energy of spring to our advantage we can use this new found rush of energy to do something a little different. 

Changing your normal routine could be as drastic as scheduling a long weekend vacation to some totally foreign place or as simple as taking a different way home from work. Just do something different. Personally, I love to take a quick weekend trip with my husband somewhere close, but different. Get a hotel in the next town over. Give yourself a gift of something adventurous like a hot air balloon ride or sky diving. Do something out of ordinary. 

Sending you lots of light and love and fresh energy on this spring! 


Spring Giveaway Time! 

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To honor the energy of spring I will be giving away 5 bottles of doTERRA Wild Orange essential oil. 

Can you feel the freshness?

Some of the perks of using wild orange essential oil are as follows: 

  • Use in an all-purpose spray to cleanse and purify surfaces.
  • Add a drop to your water every day for a burst of flavor and to promote overall health.*
  • Diffuse to uplift mood and energy levels and to freshen the air.
  • For an energizing boost, dispense one to two drops in the palm of your hand along with equal parts Peppermint and Frankincense. Rub palms together and inhale deeply from palms, then rub on the back of neck

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What Are You Practicing?

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Have you seen that viral video going around with the little kid asking, “what do you practice?”?
Omg. It is so. Good.

So good that I set a couple reminders on my phone to pop up periodically throughout the asking the question, “what are you practicing?”

The idea is this.. what we practice we get very good at. When we practice worry, we’ll be great worriers. When we practice being suspicious of events, people, places, things, we’ll be very good at being suspicious. Etc, etc.


So the lesson I’m getting from this is: to stop throughout the day, check in with myself, & realize consciously what I am practicing at that moment.

Am I practicing being frantic? 
Am I practicing seeing the bad? 
Am I practicing judgment? 
Am I practicing being in fear?

What if I was willing to practice allowance? 
Peace? 
Compassion? 
Being in love?

Not just when I’m in meditation, but always throughout the day.. noticing what I am practicing.

This morning I was trying to “get through” all the emails I’ve been putting off all week. The energy was really “I hate this,” “hurry up” and generally just tight and frantic.

Then the reminder; “what are you practicing?” popped up on my phone, and I realized it. I get the tightness. I felt the resistance. I was literally ‘practicing’ tightness, judgment, & resistance. Whoa!

And because of this little reminder, I was able to ask myself, “how can I practice joy right now?” “How can I practice how I would like to feel, right now?” So that I get really good at it.

I felt my shoulders drop. 
I felt my lips curve up. 
I heard a mantra of mine reverberate in my head, “I am peaceful.” 
And just that like that a miracle happened. 
I was practicing what I want to practice.

So this post is asking you, right now, what are you practicing? And would you rather be practicing something different?

Here’s your chance to shift it. 
I’m with you.

 

 

Letting Go of the Past and the Future to Enjoy the Present

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"Start anew, again & again. Every moment of our lives we can start anew." - Pema

You don’t have to believe the story of yesterday.

The stories of our past have a certain momentum that can be challenging to bring to a halt. 

But... 

All it takes is awareness. 

A simple momentary choice to see right now differently. 

To know that every moment is chance to start again. 

Let’s choose a new story, one that we’re excited about & in love with, right now in the present moment. 

My work this week (or let’s be honest; the work of my life) has been in the vein of learning how to not know where the path leads exactly, but walk down it anyway. And to not make assumptions about that path because of past experiences. 

To not be super consumed in the place I’m going before I get there. Or the place I was just standing.

To stay open along the way and keep moving forward. 

To meet the people and experiences that cross my path with love and curiosity; not view them as obstacles in the way of where I’m going or plaster them with expectations. 

The way I’ve learned to ‘be’ in the world is to be kind of like a bulldozer. 

I see where I’m going and I just charge ahead. 

Single minded. 

I won't say it hasn't worked for me in some respects.  

I bless the lessons, gifts, and massive amount of drive it has given me. 

But I’m ready for a softer existence. 

I’m craving more flow. 

A way of being that is more like a river. 

No hurry. 

No rush. 

No urgency. 

Swift in parts. 

Slow and heavy in others. 

I always know where I’m going. 

I’ll get there as sure as the river leads to the ocean. 

Releasing control and trusting the process so that I can enjoy what happens along the way. 

Sometimes we need more drive. 

Sometimes we need more flow. 

Sometimes we need to remember that we are here to enjoy life. To thank the every day, ordinary moments. 

Right now I’m choosing the beauty of letting go, and allowing each moment to start afresh. 

What about you?

5 Self-Care Practices That Are Working For Me Right Now

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I've been feeling pretty dang good, so good that I thought I would share my nonnegotiable self-care practices that are working for me right now, because I feel like I'm on to something... ; ) 


1. Drinking warm lemon water with a pinch of sea salt right when I wake up


This is an oldie, but a goodie.

It is my go-to advice. If you're a client of mine, I know you've heard this. If you're a friend of mine, I know you've heard this. If you're anyone that has ever stood near me, you've probably hear this... 

Here's why... 
There are four pillars of physical health in my mind: 

  1. Hydration 
  2. Sleep 
  3. nutritious food 
  4. Stress management 

We live in the real world though and it’s not very likely that you’re going to be able to do all of these perfectly all of them time. 

But when we have these four pillars in mind we can make sure we focus on what we can, when one isn't doable. 

This means, that when I know I’m going to be extra stressed or not going to be able to get as much sleep as I know would be best for me, I’ll up the hydration and I’ll up the nutritious food. Or when I’m traveling and I know I won’t be able to eat as well as normal, I’ll make sure I’m doing my stress management and drinking lots of water. 


Starting your day off with a large glass of water is one way to make sure you’re always getting a head start on the hydration. If you do the added lemon (I do the juice from half a lemon) then it helps with detox as well as kick starts your digestion. If you do the warm water, it just makes it a little easier for your body to absorb. Drink the water before coffee and you’re golden. 


2. Writing down 3 things I’m grateful for every day


Gratitude is literally the antidote to almost everything. 

If we can bring ourselves back to gratitude for what we have, we keep our vibe high and our minds focused on all the good things in our lives. If you read my stuff, you know that I’m all for accepting and loving those “negative” emotions, but dwelling on the bad in your life never made anyone feel good. 

Gratitude sets you free. 

Makes you feel good. 

Even in the most trying situations. 


I have a special little notebook I carry around with me and every morning I start my day by writing down 3 things I’m grateful for. 

Sometimes it’s as simple as, “I am grateful for my pillow,” and other days it’s bigger, “I’m grateful for my purpose.” 

The other awesome side effect of actually writing them down and making a habit of writing them down, is that throughout your day you’re looking for things to be grateful for and this keeps your thoughts and mind expecting the best. 
You’re asking yourself throughout the day, “What can I be grateful for today?”

Magic. 



3. Dancing every evening. (hey! Dancing DEFINITELY counts as self-care) 


This is something that is relatively new and seems kind of comical to actually have on my “to do” list. But here’s why I made it a nonnegotiable. 

First off, we all need more fun and play in our lives and dancing is freaking fun for me. It ALWAYS cheers me up. 

The second reason for my new dancing obsession is that I found I was getting really stuck in my head all day. All our professional work these days is very mental, cerebral, and that can make us disregard our bodies which leads to feelings of distraction, spacey-ness, feelings of disconnection and a decrease in our ability to be aroused and have sexual desire.


Dancing gives me that playful feeling and allows me to connect back into my body, allowing me to be more sexual, sensual and experience more pleasure. All good things! 



4. Check-Ins on the New Moon and on the Full Moon


I love the idea of cycles. 

We are cyclical beings. Especially as women. 

We need to remember that there is a time for planning; a time for resting and recuperating; and a time for doing.

 Our society tends to be very productivity and “doing” oriented and it’s not serving us well. People are stressed out, experiencing high levels of depression and anxiety, dis-ease. 

Connecting into our cyclical nature allows us to connect back in to nature, cycles, and gives us permission and regular intervals to reevaluate and take inventory and tap into what we need. 

The new moon ritual or check in is based around planting new seeds and intentions for the moon cycle to come. It’s a time for setting goals, getting clear about what I want, and how I am going to get it. 

The full moon ritual or check in is based around evaluation and shedding what doesn’t serve. It’s a time to be honest with ourselves about what is and isn’t working and create the space to allow what is not working to fall away and make space for something new. 

These new moon and full moon “rituals” typically are just an hour or so in the evening of the day of new moon and the day of the full moon.

It goes like this: My husband and I gather, put on some nice relaxing music, light a candle and a bundle of sage, and go through our check-in worksheets (linked below). 

We simply discuss and share what we wrote. Nothing more than that. 

This has also had a great unexpected side effect of providing time for my husband and I to connect on the state of our relationship and communicate on deeper levels than we’re normally prompted to do in every day life.

Life can get so “go, go, go” that a month can easily go by without us checking in with our families and our loved ones. These rituals have allowed us to carve out that time to check in with ourselves and each other. Priceless. 

Download my New Moon and Full Moon Ritual worksheets here


5. Using Essential Oils throughout the day


So essential oils are becoming a deep, deep love of mine, and you'll definitely be hearing a lot more about them. 

They have the ability to change your mood in an instant. They have the ability to change the entire feel of a room. 


I’ve started using them throughout my day in so many ways and they’ve literally changed so much about how I experience frustration, exhaustion, food cravings, mediation, sickness.. the list goes on. 

To keep it as brief as possible, here’s my typical daily essential oils routine: 

  • wake up, put water in the diffuser with wild orange and peppermint (hello bright shiny morning vibes!) 
  • during my morning meditation practice I’ll use rose, jasmine, or frankincense to ground me and clear my chakras. 
  • Apply the hormone balancing Clary Calm blend to my lower abdomen to keep hormones balanced and healthy throughout stressful days. 
  • Use passion blend throughout the workday when I’m feeling uninspired or sluggish. 
  • Diffuse balance, serenity, citrus bliss, elevation blend (all sorts! I can’t really say exactly what I use) throughout the day in my office to keep me feeling like I’m in a spa… ; ) 
  • Use on guard when I’m sick, imortelle on my face for anti-aging benefits, rosemary in my shampoo, deep blue with sore muscles, breathe when I do yoga.. Ok this is just crazy, but you get the point. It’s ALL THE TIME.
  • 30 min before bed I always start the bedroom diffuser with something relaxing like lavender and cedar wood or roman chamomile. 


**Interested in getting some medicinal grade essential oils? I am an essential oils educator and wellness advocate with doTERRA essential oils and would love to chat with you about how to use oils to address areas of your life where you need some self-care. Email me at revolutionaryhelpdesk@gmail.com to schedule a phone call. 

Ok, so those are 5 self-care practices that are working for me right now...

Now let me know, what's working for you? 

Practicing Peace with Ourselves for the Benefit of All

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The #metoo movement, the Time’s Up Campaign, and the massive energy behind women’s empowerment and what we expect from others as women has me all fired up in so many ways. 

It’s kind of like waking up from a life-long dream… 

Wait.... of COURSE, we need to speak out about the daily misogyny we experience as women! 

How could I have just been letting the cat calls, the uncomfortable comments like 'your jeans look like they fit really well,"or the lack of respect I feel, every time someone chooses to comment on a physical attribute of mine, instead of commenting on the attributes of my mind, my intellect or my kindness? I was just letting that stuff “go” as “part of the life in this world”. 

It is majorly messed up alarmingly often women get sexually assaulted in their homes, places of employment, etc and don’t speak out about it because they are worried about retribution, judgment, and being seen as the one who “stirs things up.” 

Well it’s over, time is up now. We WILL STIR THINGS UP, because we are all humans beings who deserve to be respected and seen for more than our bodies. 

 This is a great rule of thumb. 

This is a great rule of thumb. 

The thing I want to write about today is more about the source of this misogyny and how we, as women, can also be the perpetrators of violence. In our society when we think of violence we generally think of physical violence: inflicting physical harm to someone else. However, I want to expand that definition to any type of physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual harm we cause to ourselves or others. 

We must realize that gross and extreme examples of violence aren’t just random acts. Like all things that go against the goodness of human nature, they build up slowly over time. Definitions and boundaries; slowly being eroded with small toes over the line of decency. Something, and then another thing, and then another thing, gets shoved underground, passed off as "normal", and eventually all these subtly not-OK things begin to fester, become toxic, and turn into something really ugly. 

In the case of extreme acts of violence, it’s the more indirect acts of violence that are consistently permitted on a larger, broader scale. When these seemingly “small” harmful acts are allowed, deemed normal, or seen as necessary, it is inevitable that larger, more extreme acts of violence will eventually take place. In this way, the violence we perpetrate on ourselves on the seemingly inconspicuous levels contribute to the society-wide severe violence we seen in our culture. That is why, as women, we must say “no” to any and all violence inflicted against us by other people, but more importantly the acts of violence we inflict on ourselves. 

Internal violence is pervasive. These violent sentiments can show up in so many seemingly “normal” actions. Suppressing our hunger is an act of harm to our bodies. Overeating to fill an emotional void is an act of harm to our emotional state as well as our physical bodies. Deciding to push our bodies way harder than they want to be pushed in the gym is harmful. Eating junk food mindlessly. Starving ourselves. I would argue, that certain types of plastic surgery could be considered acts of violence towards our bodies. Literally cutting our skin, manipulating precious body parts to be closer to a standard of beauty that society sets for us and has nothing to do with our worthiness. The way we talk to ourselves, treat ourselves, and the disrespect for our bodies and what they need/want/are asking for, is a massive source of “subtle’ violence in our world. 

We can’t expect people who don’t love themselves to be able to love other people. It truly does, and always will, start with us. {This isn’t a call for the victims of sexual assault or violence to blame themselves, and if you’ve been violated or had violence done to you by someone else it was not your fault in any way, shape or form.} We all have to realize that we must stop the violence where ever we can. We must say “NO” to the violence perpetrated against ourselves in the form of negative self-talk, cruel self-commentary, and the assumption that we need to use harsh language or action with ourselves to create internal/external changes. 

Non-violence and peace starts with you and me. It starts in our ability to forgive ourselves. It starts with allowing ourselves to be flawed, and still speak to ourselves lovingly. It starts with complete and radical self-acceptance. It starts with having grace with ourselves. It starts by refusing to inflict violence on ourselves. 

Practicing peace towards ourselves, daily, will allow peace to overflow from our hearts and into the collective. As we are less judgmental of ourselves we become less judgmental of others. As we become more kind with ourselves, we notice we are kinder to others.

So let’s say “time’s up” to the violent, abusive thoughts, behaviors we have been perpetrating on ourselves. Let’s bring awareness to where we are allowing violence in our daily lives, and start to choose Love instead. As we build the momentum within our own lives, we will see it spread out to others. 

I'm with you relearning how to treat myself with more love, forgiveness, and allowance every step of the way. 

It's All Connected

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“It’s all connected. Your gifts, your circumstances, your imperfections, your destiny, your journey. It’s molding you. Embrace it.” 

I read this quote yesterday and it was one of those ah-ha moments. These moments sometimes hit me like a ton of bricks. Like someone’s been trying to explain something to me, and I’m kind of getting it, but then it all falls into place, and I see the tunnel of light leading me out of the darkness. 

You know what I mean? 

This clarity seems likes it’s never more than a split second, a little flash of Truth. Your head coming up for air, and looking around, and realizing that you thought you were drowning but you’ve actually been choosing to swim under water. 

But then, you dunk right back under and start the struggle again. Ah..so is life. The problem is, we’ve got so much momentum built up around our suffering, our struggles, our story, and staying in our heads. This momentum keeps doing things we know don’t work, just because we’ve done them before. Keeps us stuck, in a rut, spinning our wheels with the same beliefs and expectations for ourselves, because it’s “known”. 

However, these flashes of clarity, more and more leave me with a resonance. Even when I’m back under water, drowning in all the to dos, the need to’s, the plans, the expectations, I have this trace of remembrance, like something right on the tip of my tongue. A remembering that life can be sweet, simple, easy, and beautiful. A knowing that all is well and right. 

This quote gave me that flash of “I’ve got it!” 

An, “Oh my god!” moment. All of this struggle, all of this doubt, all of this uncertainty, it’s all part of IT. It’s sharpening my knife of capability. It’s strengthening my resolve. It’s molding me into who I need to be to be the best life-player I can be. 

How cool is that? That I can see all the challenges I’m being presented with in my life as opportunities to hone my skills. And trust that it is all happening FOR me and not TO me. How cool is it that we all get the choice to see our challenges this way, if we choose to. 

Another mantra I’ve been repeating to myself lately is, “My circumstances are not who I am, they are where I am.” Circumstances can change in an instant. The fact that you are 30 years old, living with your parents and jobless, does not make you a worse person than your friend who is the same age and makes six figures has designer furniture and a laberdoodle. 

Our circumstances do not define us. The help us. They lead us towards the lessons we need to learn to be the best possible us we can be. 

I know, I know, this might sound totally cheesy, but I’m writing this as much for myself as all of you. When we look at the hardships in our lives as stepping stones, leading us home, we can come up for air more often. 

We can bask in the luminosity of divine guidance and presence.

We can have trust and faith that we can choose to see this moment as an opportunity to come home. 

To remember our innate worthiness. 

To lighten-up. 

To get out of our head and back into our precious bodies. 

So, for anyone out there struggling to make sense of things, struggling to get out of bed in the morning, or to take care of themselves, remember: 

“It’s all connected. Your gifts, your circumstances, your imperfections, your destiny, your journey. It’s molding you. Embrace it.” 

Coming Back to America & Productivity Addiction

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It's been a little bit since I've reached out with anything new... and that's because I've returned to the United States after my year-long trek around the world. 

My husband and I are on the very last leg of our journey and today we'll actually set foot in OUR HOME! Right now, we're sitting in the Bozeman Food Co-op waiting for my mom to come pick us up and bring us home. It's snowing outside. We have all our suitcases piled around us as well as a week's worth of groceries that will actually go in my OWN kitchen. 

It feels right. 

I am so excited to have my own space again, more options for clothes than what can fit in a little packing cube, and to be seated at my own little desk in my own little office. 

That being said... 

Coming back to the United States from a year abroad has its difficulties. 

I am a person who is very sensitive to energy and "vibes" and part of what I would do in each country I visited is get a sense of the energy of that country and try to sum it up in a few words. 

Example: Bali is magical and heavy with discovery. India is chaotic and spiritual. Croatia is recovered and burgeoning. 

So when I landed in LAX from Guatemala, I immediately felt the American vibe of: stress, isolationism, and "rat-race-iness." (not to mention the smell of America is fast food restaurants and cleaning chemicals). 

We've been back stateside now for about 3 weeks visiting family and friends and slowly making our way north, and I've already found myself and my energy getting sucked back into this "go go go" energy. It's incredibly hard not to. 

We, as a society, are addicted to productivity. 

We have this idea that being “productive” somehow increases our value. The more we do, the more we’re worth. 

Making us feel like productivity equals love. And productivity starts to be equated to the biggest of all our root desires; connection. 

So we do more. We stretch ourselves further. We try to dig deeper into a well that’s already hit bedrock. We strive. We push.

More work. 
More workouts.
More healthy food.
More money. 
More things. 
More.

And, just like any addiction, this one is making us sick. Creating a surge in physical imbalances like adrenal fatigue, thyroid issues, hormone imbalances; mental/emotional imbalances like anxiety, depression, & a general lack of enthusiasm for life; spiritual imbalances like feeling like we have no purpose & meaning in our lives. 

In a climate like this..
(As Danielle Laporte says) “being still is an act of courage.” 


It is a brave & courageous act to stop, let go of the need to “do” & instead listen. 


To lay in savasana a little longer.
To let yourself sleep in.
To allow yourself to do nothing for an entire day.
To let the “to do” list fall by the wayside. 
4 day work weeks (which I am personally implementing this year).
Take a year long sabbatical.
Do shorter work days.
Take 15 min breaks every hour.

When you stop to reevaluate your life, you are taking a stand against our society-wide addiction & letting wisdom sink in. Creating space for healing to occur. 

Slowing down or stopping won’t get you any honors or congratulations, but when you are intentionally still you are doing something powerful & necessary. 

Pause to feel what’s happening to you. 
Pause to love. 
Pause to appreciate & feel gratitude.

Take a break, not to be more productive later, but because its the inhale to the exhale. 

I see you’re tired, love. I’m tired too. Let’s all rest & simply breathe. You are loved, you are loving, you are lovable, forever. 

You don’t have to do anything to deserve this. We’re in this together.

 

Only Love, 

 

Clara 

2018 Blessing & Year End Inventory Worksheet

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New Year 2018 Blessing

I hope you allow yourself to change your mind 

    as many times as you need to

I hope you go forth and do before you are completely ready

    because nothing ever happens as you think it should

I hope you feel the magic in your bones

    and use it with whimsy 

I hope you listen to the secrets your blood whispers to you

   and learn to trust your gut 

I hope you laugh too loud 

   because the world needs more unexpected laughter

I hope you dance 

   because your body needs more freedom 

I hope you know that you are supported always 

   even when (and especially when) you feel all alone

I hope you keep going into your heart because

   There is nothing that is not heaven when the knots around your heart loosen 

(wanna print this blessing for your fridge? Get printable version here

 

If you're wondering how to make the most of the new year without doing the dreaded "New Years Resolution" I'm giving you the process I personally go through instead in the form of a worksheet. This worksheet is a series of 6 questions that will guide you through taking an inventory of the past year and reflecting on what has worked and what hasn't worked so that you can move into 2018 in an intentional and care-full way. 

By going through these simple 6 questions you'll end up with ONE WORD that will encompass the feelings you would like to cultivate in 2018. You can come back to this word throughout 2018 and use it to come back to your center, your desired feelings, and your intention. 

Only Love, 

 

Clara