This past week I reached a personal business goal of mine that I have been putting a lot energy & intention towards for a very long time.
A lot of working on weekends, taking trips away from my family, not taking part in social events, later work nights, longer days, sacrificing the pleasure of now for the pleasure of the long term.. all culminating this month.
There is something so incredibly satisfying about setting a goal and accomplishing it.
The intention is set. The decision is made. The challenge is accepted. The work begins. Energy is channeled toward the desired outcome.
Sometimes a goal comes more easily than we expected.
Most the time we take a few wrong turns on the way. We might go backwards for a bit. We might lose track of the end goal in the details of getting there. A lot of times we are required to readjust the goal in one way or another. Change our expectations. Make exceptions.
But if we continue to keep moving forward and train our mind to latch on to only love, we will always, eventually, make it to where we are supposed to, in perfect time.
After we reach the goal, we feel accomplished, maybe even overjoyed.
It’s in that space that I am now.
In the past I would (and I think a lot of people tend to do this as well) immediately move on to the next “bigger” and “better” goal. Or find the reasons why the goal I reached wasn’t really such an accomplishment, and play it down. I would rain on my own parade by immediately demanding more from myself. Comparing myself to others who had reached more “impressive” goals; downplaying all the joy.
But now, I choose to stop in the midst of this celebration of myself.
I choose to really revel in the fulfillment.
I choose to congratulate and love on the people who ran with me and made it possible (I would never pretend that I reach my goals on my own).
I choose to see myself and my people; victorious.
To be still and create space around the feeling of jubilant satisfaction of truly creating something meaningful, and get really, really familiar with this feeling. Because I plan on having a lot more of it.
Part of the reason people can get so downtrodden, ambivalent, and lukewarm when it comes to the goals they set for themselves is that they have never actually let themselves FEEL how good it feels to create. They don't celebrate themselves.
That is one of the MOST motivating feelings ever.
Brene Brown says that joy is the most vulnerable of emotions. And it IS! If you really let yourself be truly joyful, the threat of you getting blindsided is greater. The part of ourselves that is protecting us from judgement, pain, and disconnection might feel that joy is actually something that needs to be tempered.
So we end up hedging our joy with an edge of down play. We temper our sunny celebration with a hint of grey skepticism. It makes a weird kind of sense. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
So, today I choose to really & deeply experience this win of mine.
I choose to celebrate.
I choose to remember what it feels like to feel really, really satisfied.
Are you with me?