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7 Ways to Balance Your Hormones Naturally

Do you feel super tired for no real explanation? How about lost your drive in the bedroom? Maybe you’ve got unexplained weight gain or hair loss or skin issues? Are you trying to get off hormonal birth control but you’re not sure how? Maybe you’re coming into menopause and having all sorts of weird symptoms. Maybe you KNOW you have a hormone imbalance because of infertility struggles, painful periods, endometriosis or PCOS, but you’re not getting the answers or the clear directives on what to do about it from your doctors.

If any of this is you, watch this video for 7 basic things you can start doing today to balance your hormones naturally. Then, download my Hormone Balance Plan to get the full plan and get started on your healing journey today.

The Hormone Balance Plan

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I am so excited to announce that I have released my Hormone Balance Plan.

You can balance your hormones naturally, you just need a plan.

This plan is a culmination of my work with hundreds of women trying to take back control of their hormones. This plan isn’t easy, it requires time, energy, and financial investment in yourself and your body. But, it works. And there is not better thing to invest in than your own home on this planet. I hope I get to chat with on hormones clarity session and I know this plan is the solutions you’ve been looking for if you’ve been searching for a natural solution to your hormone balance issues.

Who is the Plan for?

  • If you have infertility concerns

  • If you experience life-affecting PMS, cramps, heavy bleeding, irregular periods, or mood swings.

  • If you’ve been diagnosed with endometriosis.

  • If you’ve been diagnosed with PCOS

  • If you experience depression or anxiety around your cycle.

  • If you’re confused about strange symptoms like: unexplained weight gain, hair loss, low energy and fatigue, night sweats.

  • If you’d like to get your “glow” back

  • If you’re trying to get your “sexy” back

  • if you’re going through menopause

  • if you’re wanting to get off hormonal birth control, but not sure how..

… this plan will help you get your hormones under control.

What you get in the plan:

  • Diet and meal suggestions to eat in sync with your cycle

  • Additional nutritional resources for hormone balancing

  • Guidelines on how to track your cycle so that you’re aware of what phase you are in.

  • Guidelines on how to track your cycle so that you don’t need to use birth control if you don’t want to get pregnant.

  • Lifestyle suggestions for hormonal balance

  • A free guided meditation for hormone balance

  • A detailed description of the supplements for healing hormonal imbalances.

  • The best medicinal grade essential oils to support hormone balance and how to use them.

You can download it by entering your email address in the form below…

Be The Change

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Ghandi said, “Be the change you would like to see in the world.”

These words can almost be cliche now, but let’s really think about the deep, deep wisdom they hold.


I am feeling more and more convicted as I watch and observe the world around me that I MUST, with my actions, demonstrate what I would most like to see.


So many others have said it in different ways…

Glennon Doyle Melton said: "It doesn't matter what you say you think, it matters what we do.”


Don't know who said: "Practice what you preach." "Lead by example" "When we heal ourselves we heal the world." “Empowered people, empower people.” and on and on.
Just because it's been said before doesn't mean it shouldn't be said again.

There is something in me pushing up old stories, old patterns, old bullshit for me and I need the reminder to move inward.


The reminder to be honest with myself. And make sure that I am demonstrating what I would most like to see in the world, which is forever: More forgiveness. More understanding. More Love. More freedom.


It starts with me.

It starts with us: The gentle. The forgiving. The humble. The ones who know the darkness in the world is only a reflection of the darkness we harbor toward ourselves. When I can't forgive someone it's because I am not forgiving a part of myself. When there is judgement, there is contraction and love cannot flow unimpeded.

And love is the only thing that heals.


Real change comes when we give up the game of right and wrong. When we lay down our need to be validated and fall into each other's arms and know we are the same.


Come home all my parts. All my broken and haggard.

Come scream and cry and rage TOGETHER. Let us realize we are the fire of transformation.

Come re-member the love that flows through us. Come re-member who we are.

Come be forgiven.

Come have a seat at my table.

Come help me build a world where the collective pain is not fought against (no more separation) but accepted and only then, transcended.


Allow yourself to be still today and ask yourself what you really want to see in this world and go out and demonstrate just that.

If you feel the call to be guided in a mindfulness practice I have some you can download in my offerings here: https://www.clarawisner.com/meditations


The Definition of Multi-Passionate

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Do you feel like you need more focus in your life? Like you need to stop being so “all over the place”?

I used to feel something akin to shame when it came to all my interests, all my starts and stops, the way I would be SO into something and then totally loose interest soon afterwards.

I’ve been known to go DEEP into a diet; a philosophy, a spiritual practice; read all the books, research it all, talk about it non stop, get everyone to do it with me; only to move on to the next thing a few weeks later. I used to think there was something wrong with me.

But now.. I LOVE this aspect of myself. I love how I collect knowledge, practices, letters after my name, healing modalities, knowledge on random facts about the human body.. I take exactly what I need and then exactly when I’m ready, move on to what excites me next.

I am maybe one of the fastest processors you’ve ever met. I always to with my gut. And now I totally trust in my “learn as I go” process.

If you’ve been following along; you know that I write, I coach, I mentor, I educate about + sell essential oils with dōTERRA, I’m a podcaster.. and now... a real estate investor.

This actually isn’t totally new; my husband and I have been dabbling in real estate for over 5 years. But we’ve recently completed a big project converting a couple houses in Missoula, MT into Airbnbs and long term rental units.


If I hadn’t let myself be who I am and be interested in growing wealth and expanding influence, or if I was worried that being a “landlord” didn’t fit into my health and wellness profile; I wouldn’t have gotten this amazing opportunity to use my creativity to build out these beautiful spaces.


When you play to your strengths, believe in your innate natural talents, and trust the pull of your heart; you’ll go far.

Be more like you, everyday, no matter if it makes sense or not; it’s the right direction.


This is my story; of always choosing to let myself dream big and create what my soul desires. Check out the instagram account @sanctuarymt to follow along with this new(ish) venture of my husband and I, and to even book your stay...

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Ambition is Boring

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Here’s a mindset shift for you: Ambition is boring.

I’ll elaborate, of course.


Ambition is this idea that if we know what we want, how to get it ...if we just put our minds to it.. we can “make” it happen, no matter what it costs us.

That’s a boring; nose-to-grind-stone; patriarchal; old, story.

I’m done with the ego-driven; “hustle” and “productivity equals worth” paradigm. This idea that our success in life has ANYTHING to do with the quality of person we are.

You are worthy, no matter what type of car you drive or position at work you hold or how lazy or hard-working you are.

The seed of truth in this old paradigm is that you must DECIDE to let yourself want to what you want. Free will means you get to choose where you place your focus. But, what I’ve found, is that being super attached to a situation having a specific outcome leaves no room for things like wonder; delight; magic. Plus, it can create a whole lot of suffering when things don’t go as planned [they never do].

Life is a conversation.

it’s a give-take between you and the wonderful world. You’ll NEVER know what the *best* outcome could be. And by thinking you do; you shut down all creativity and openness. You forget to enjoy what is going on RIGHT NOW.

A true life’s work shouldn’t be driven by the sterilized, unforgiving drive of ambition. That’s a recipe for burnout and a life void of flow.

A true life’s work should morph and shift and be non linear.. but something you show up for each day with an intention to stay open to the highest good and the highest possibility.

So go out there and do what you love and stay open to it happening in a way that’s better than you could have ever imagined.

I’m with you.

What to Do When You're Overwhelmed

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Do you ever feel overwhelmed?

Like, you look out over your day, the upcoming week and just have no idea how you're supposed to 'get it all done'?

What about feeling like if one more person asks you to do one more thing you might explode?

Overwhelm is THING these days.

Most people I talk to at my workshops, in my mentoring calls, and in my coaching sessions tell they feel burnt out, overwhelmed and at the end of their ropes when it comes to the thought of changing or adding one more thing to their to-do list.

The busyness issue is real.

Personally, I refuse to be “busy”. It feels disempowering. I decide where, why, when and how I do things, and that’s based on my priorities. When I feel overwhelmed I know that that is an indication that my priorities aren't clear. The overwhelm feeling is the indicator to me that I need to check in with what's really important to me.

One of the biggest hold ups with the people that I talk to is they feel like they CAN'T take things off their plate. Or they feel like they MUST do it all. Or they don't slow down enough to even think about what could be removed. They're just constantly reacting to everything. They feel totally powerless and are just reacting to one person's request after another.

So here's my four tips for when you're feeling overwhelmed to claim your power and get your priorities clear again.

1. Become really, really hard to get a hold of for at least one day (maybe more days).

This means: no social media, no texting, no phone calls, no listening to other people's demands on your time. Part of why we might feel overwhelmed is that we are putting other people's needs before our own. That is a recipe for burn out. So just for one day; become really, really hard to get ahold of. Maybe you camp out in a coffee shop getting the stuff that YOU need to get done, done. Maybe you go to the spa and treat yo' self. Maybe you just take a day to be completely disconnected at home; a "sick" day if you will. But take a day, or four where you're focusing on YOU.

2. Get in the habit of using a planner.

If you don't use an online calendar of some sort, it's time to bite the bullet and just do it. Seriously. One reason why people get stuck in the overwhelm state is because they don't have systems. Their poor brains are trying to keep track of everything. Google calendar is my tool of choice (I LIVE by my calendar) but there are others like iCal or Outlook, but pick one, and move all your appointments, work meetings, personal coffee dates, EVERYTHING to it. I’m strongly recommending an online calendaring system because you can create reminders, recurring events, and access it from your phone, your computer or your iPad, so you’ll never be without it. Yes, it will take a little bit of learning how to use on the front end, but you will be so happy you did.

3. Have medicinal grade essential oils diffusing around you as much as possible.

There's this almost magical effect having pure medicinal grade essential oils diffusing around you, and that is that they calm your nervous system, allow you to focus, and help you remember the world is not ending if you don't get your email inbox cleared out. We can use essential oils to help motivate us, to help cheer us up, or to give us a sense of reassuring peace. They can ground up and help us remember to breathe. They boost our immune system, they support our organs, and so much more. They are truly one of the BEST tools we have for our mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health. Use them! If you're in Montana, check out my live upcoming classes below or you're always welcome to book a complimentary one on one medicinal essential oils session with me here: http://bit.ly/freeoilsconsult

4. Ask yourself what is really important to you.

This piggy backs on the priorities aspect of overwhelm I talked about earlier. But knowing what you TRULY value in life is of utmost importance when we're talking about living a life that feels fulfilling. It's easy to get swept up in the wave of watching what other people are doing and feeling like we must do more or be different, or feeling like you have to go the extra mile for work, or adding IN a new exercise routine without taking anything else OUT of your already overloaded life. But what do YOU actually value? What do YOU actually want to do with your time in the day? Maybe you've been pushing yourself super hard at work because you think you should want to make a lot of money, but really you value cozy time at home with your family. Maybe you've been driving your kids all over the state to soccer tournaments, but your values really don't align with spending lots of time at practices and games? Get REAL with yourself here. What is really important to you?


What to do with Worry

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Are you a worrier? 

Do you find yourself posing hypothetical situations of doom and gloom in your head all day long? 

Maybe you’re not that extreme, but you find yourself thinking about the future in a way that takes away from your present tense experience and brings down your overall “vibe” more often than you’d like?

I teach classes about health and wellness all over the world and the most common thing people tell me they suffer from is…. anxiety, which is really just another name for worry. 


Sometimes we feel like worrying is a necessary part of life. If we didn’t worry, how would we prepare ourselves for all the possible terrible outcomes of any given situation? 

If we didn’t worry, we might get caught “off guard”.. which would be the worst, right?

I’ll let you in on a little secret, worrying steals our joy. In fact, I am going to argue that worry is actually a form of self harm.

We worry when something good is happening. We worry when something bad is happening. We worry when nothing is happening. We take on other people’s worry. And without intentionally choosing to focus on what is going well, over and over again, we are literally putting ourselves in a position where we could spend our lives not enjoying anything to its fullest, which would be a complete and utter shame. 

Research has found we tend to think “good” things happening to us will make us happier than they actually do and that “bad” things happening to us will make us sadder than they actually do. This is to say; it truly is all about our perspective and how we see the world. Not about what actually happens to us.


Ok, so are you ready to intentionally choose a new perspective the next time you worry or experience anxiety? 

Are you willing to make your feelings of worry or anxiety be the alert in your own mind that it is time to choose a new thought? 

Here’s a practice that I find very useful when I’m dealing with worry or anxiety: 

  • Notice yourself worrying about something. 

  • Let go of the worry-thoughts, shifting your focus away from them

  • Wonder: What positive new thing is trying to come into being? 

  • Notice a body feeling (not a thought or an idea) of where that positive new thing is trying to come through. 

  • Open your focus to feel that body feeling deeply.

  • Let yourself feel it deeply for as long as you possibly can

  • Later, you will get an actual idea of how this new positive thing is trying to come through.

How this works in practice: 

  • I’m walking down the street on a Saturday afternoon. I pass a clothing store where I have bought some fabulous pieces of clothing over the years. About fifteen seconds later I notice some worrying thoughts about money. Specifically, the worry-thoughts are about whether we have enough money to do all the marketing for business I’m planning on doing. 

  • I notice the worry-thoughts and let them go, just dropping them mid-thought without pursuing them. (Meditation helps with this aspect, as it trains you to see your thoughts but not following them.)

  • I wonder what positive thought is trying to come through. 

  • I feel a pleasant sensation in my throat. 

  • As I walk along, I let myself feel it thoroughly, savoring the pleasant sensation. 

  • A few minutes later, getting into my car, the insight occurs to me that seeing the clothes in the window triggered a wave of guilt about the level of abundance my husband and I enjoy, compared with other members of our family. Seeing the clothing also sparked a feeling of how much I love and appreciate my husband, and how much he doesn’t balk or give me criticism for my love of beautiful material things. I sit in my car for a few moments before turning on the engine, letting myself enjoy the feelings of how much I love and appreciate my husband, and how much I enjoy the prosperity we’ve created in our lives. I realize there is not physical object that could express those feelings. They exist in the nonmaterial world, in the feeling of flowing connection between us. 

  • I pick up my phone and call Sean. He’s out doing errands too, and it turns out he’s two blocks away from where I’m sitting in the car. I tell him the sequence I just experienced from the glance in the window to the worry-thoughts to the delicious moment of letting myself feel the overflow of love and appreciation for him. I say, “Let’s make sure we take more time to celebrate what we have.” 

  • He agrees and I head home.

  • I create more good feelings, feelings of overflow, abundance, and gratitude, RIGHT NOW, and not only that, I created these feelings because of the worry-thoughts. Because they were the perfect impetus to remind myself how much I have. I used the worry-thoughts as a jumping off point.

How to Build Endurance

Endurance.. normally we think of this as an athletic endeavor.

However, this week on “revolutionary lifestyle TV” I talk about why building emotional, mental and spiritual endurance is one of the most valuable undertakings of our life. So go ahead and give the little 7 min #clarawisdom clip a watch.

 
 

Self Care: A Definition

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SELF CARE: A DEFINITION.

Self care = sovereignty. Sovereignty is defined as “supreme power or authority” or “a self-governing state”. Self care means you (and only you) are the ruler of your world.

Self care is taking the power back from social media, technology and other peoples’ demands on our time.

Self care is realizing we need to protect our own inner resources.

Self care is not allowing someone else’s ideas about what we need to look like affect our internal measure of worth.

Self care is not responding to messages, emails or texts that demand us to put ourselves on someone else’s timeline; responding all day instead of proactively spending our time intentionally building what we want to build, doing what we want to do.


Self care is making a stand to speak up from a place of love when we’ve been offended, downplayed or made to feel unimportant. Self care is to take up space even if it makes us super uncomfortable and we run the risk of not seeming “nice”.

Self care is respecting our limits + our boundaries, but also knowing that we’ve got to push the edges of our comfort zone if we want to keep life interesting + we want to keep growing.

Self care is allowing the paradox: we must be all-accepting and all-loving of ourselves AND ALSO expect so much more for ourselves.

Self care is my JAM!

If you feel like your self care game is lacking and you’re not sure how to go about rectifying it, book a self love clarify call with me. Book it here: https://form.jotform.co/72645293608867


I’m with you.

Only Make High Vibration Commitments

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What are you saying “yes,” to, when you actually want to say, “NO.”?

Do you feel sapped of energy?

Feeling like you’re trying so hard to do what’s “right” and make people like you and keep all your ducks in a row? But at the end of the day you just kind of feel dried up?

Do you say “yes” to things you really would love to say “NO!” to?

This has been a big part of my work lately is realizing that even though, as a person with high energy, high efficiency, high organization and high capability, I could make a lot of commitments and do a decent job at fulfilling all of them, but… when they are low vibe commitments, eg commitments I don’t want to do, they start to weigh me down.

Imagine if you only said “YES!” + committed to things that excited you in an expansive way. Imagine if you didn’t feel like you never had enough time. Imagine if you just simply said “NO.” to things that didn’t light you up? Imagine if before you said “yes” to something you asked yourself, “Do I actually want to do this?”

Where would you be? What would life feel like?

I’ve been asking myself these questions lately and what is coming is a lightness I have never felt before. I release of guilt. A greater and stronger channel to my highest self and what I was put on this Earth to do. If I’m going to do that work, then I better save ALL my potency for it.

Don’t water yourself down.

Only make high vibration commitments.

Commitments that excite you. Commitments that expand you. Commitments that scare you in a way that makes you feel the shifting of new horizons taking shape. Commitments that make you more YOU.

I’m with you.

What Surrender Actually Looks Like...

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THE REAL MEANING OF SURRENDER
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Have you ever felt like you wanted to “give up”?
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Have you ever had a goal? A goal that you really, really, really wanted but the time was closing in + it looked like you wouldn’t reach that goal?
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Have you ever felt like you failed?
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I have. I have “failed” so many times, I could never go through them all in this little Instagram caption.
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I have failed in ways that would make you put your hand to your heart + cock your head + say “awwwww.. 😭😭.” I have failed in ways that would make your heart ache.
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But this is where surrender comes in.
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When we have an idea about what you really, really want + we think we understand how to get there + then it becomes apparent that the way we thought we would get there will not work; we can call that failure.
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Or.
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We can surrender.
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Surrender to the bigger plan.
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Surrender to the guidance being offered to us every moment.
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Surrender the attachment to “our way”.. + trust that there is another more beautiful way, if only we let go.
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“Letting go” + “surrendering” doesn’t mean to “give up”, in fact, I’ve done some of my hardest, most difficult work only after I’ve surrendered my ideas about the way things “SHOULD LOOK” or “SHOULD BE.”
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When you truly surrender your path + your single perception of the what you think would be the greatest outcome then you O P E N yourself up to MORE possibilities. The things you could do in the moment expand. You are giving yourself more options.
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Surrendering doesn’t mean stopping + doing nothing + acquiescing to what’s happening.. it means asking “I believe in miracles.. so if there was ONE MORE THING I could do.. what would that be?”
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And then letting go of the idea that you know the best way.
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Surrender today, my loves, AND keep going for what you want.
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I’m with you. 💗




You are Gold, Baby. Solid Gold.

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Myth: I am not good enough.

Magic: I am a magnificent being in the process of becoming more magnificent.

This empowering truth runs through all the world’s great traditions. If you study what the founders + mystics of those traditions taught, you will find that they highlight our innate worth rather than reinforce our weakness. They celebrate our inner fire rather than focus on the threat of hell fire.

The truth is, at your core, you are GOLD. Anything you’ve done, failed at, built stories around is the MUD.

And just like mud covering up solid gold, the stories don’t change the value of the gold. It might make it hard to see at times. It might get confusing + messy + deep.. but the gold at your core doesn’t change.

Your mistakes are not who you are.

Your story is not who you are.

Remember you are gold baby, solid gold.

I’m with you.


Act Like It

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This is a message to all women out there acting like you are anything less than a spark of the Divine.

This is a message for anyone who feels like they “can’t” do it.

This is a note to any woman out there equating her worth to her waistline or her thigh circumference.

This is a note to you.

To remind of who you are.

You are POWERFUL.

Act like it.

You are CAPABLE.

Act like it.

You have a heart that can transform deep pain and emotional devastation into MORE love.

Act like it.

You have a mind that knows the answer to any question in your heart.

Act like it.

You have a body that is alive; heart beating, lungs breathing, and the complicated systems beyond what we’ve even figured out, are more or less working.

Act like it.

You have a spirit is that is magnificent and came to this earth for a purpose. To learn and to love and know what it’s like to be human.

Act like it.

Remember, that you have a responsibility to treat your precious body well. Feed it healthy, wholesome food. Move it and feel it’s delight. Drink good quality water. Talk nicely to it. It’s made of stardust after all.

Remember, your heart beat is your home. No one else’s. Partners are lovely and comforting, but you’ve got all you need right in the center of your chest.

Remember that your mind is a tool to be used for the good of all, not to spin out on all the disadvantages and excuses and failures of your life.

Remember that your spirit, that unexplained phenomenon that you don’t have to “understand” but that you “know”, is a part of something bigger than you could ever imagine. Be with yourself.

This is your message today to Act like the divine being you are.

I’m with you.




The Myth Of Doing It All

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The other day I was reading an email from a person in our tribe and they said "I just don't understand how those "super women" do it all!" 

I know in this shiny, social media soaked culture we can feel overwhelmingly behind all the time. The comparison game is ON HIGH with most of us. 

And I get it.. it can feel like we're always a few steps behind everyone else.. but let this email be your reminder.. every woman is a super woman and “doing it all” is a myth.

Sometimes we feel like we should be able to do it all.


We have this sense that “everyone else” is doing more than we are; and that we’ll somehow “fall behind” if we don’t keep going a thousand miles a minute.

Better “keep up”!

We have this idea that we should be able to eat “clean” all the time, workout (hard) every day, take care of our families, be chronically sleep deprived & still function well, be successful, make lots of money, have lots of things, have awesome relationships with our parents & have close knit circle of friends... the list goes on.

No wonder we all feel soooo tired.

Of course we can’t do all that.

News flash! No one does.

We can have EVERYTHING our hearts desire, but we’ve better take care of ourselves during the process of getting it, or else what’s the point?

The world needs the best version of you, you can be. The world needs your rested, cared for, and FULL self.

Self-care is not selfish; it’s one of the best things you can do for other people. Letting yourself rest and have downtime is a gift to yourself and others. When you give to yourself, others benefit.

I’m so over women feeling like they have to wear all the hats. Feeling like their dreams require them to sacrifice. Feeling that they need to do all the things and look good doing it.

We don’t.

There will always be phases of intensity when we talk about building dreams, but that doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to let yourself ENJOY every moment of it.

So go ahead.
Give into the pleasure of the moment.
Relish an extra hour in bed; I promise the world won’t collapse and you won’t get fired.
Go to that workout class even though you’ve got a to-do list a mile long.

One thing I just did: mark a day off on your calendar as “a personal day” and do whatever you want. 

Discipline Is Slowing Down

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What if I told you that to be disciplined you’ve got to slow down?

We all think we need more discipline, but what we really think when we think discipline is "willpower." 

We think if only we had more willpower we would love ourselves more. We would stop eating sugar. We would go to the gym everyday. We would do more exciting things and have more exciting lives.

This is a lie.

You don’t need more willpower. You need more discipline.

Discipline requires you to decide what your values are and act on those values even when in the short term it isn’t exactly fun. Discipline comes after you’ve experienced the downfall of lack of discipline. Discipline requires wisdom and long term thinking.

Willpower is the idea that we can ‘will’ ourselves to do something. We can’t.

One the most important things I’ve ever heard is devotion and love will always outlive drive and motivation. And devotion requires the wisdom and repetition of discipline.

So how do we grow discipline?

One might argue that we grow discipline with willpower.

But I don’t see it that way at all. The idea that we have to “fight” ourselves in anyway to get what we want is just falling back into the old paradigm of “life is hard” and that we have to “work more” and “sacrifice” to “build something for ourselves.” The paradigm that the world is a difficult place to be. This is an old and tired way of thinking. It’s boring and it’s ran its course. 

How we really build discipline is by committing to slowing down and asking ourselves meaningful questions.

To grow discipline we engage in mindfulness when we eat, when we talk, when we listen, when we live

It’s simple. Just slow down. Watch what you’re actually doing. Let eating food be enough, don’t work while eating. Let walking to your car or to the next store be enough and don’t check your phone for the 100th time that day. Think about what you’re saying before you say it. Really listen to people when they talk.

We build discipline by slowing down and listening to what the soft animal of our body actual wants and doing that. It’s as simple as stopping the autopilot of life.

It’s so surface-level-attractive to speed up in life. To distract, escape, and avoid. But to live a life of intention and soul-led-purpose we’ve gotta slow down.

Slowing down doesn’t mean that you can’t get anything done. In fact, I’m willing to bet that you’ll probably get more done. But you will “lean” out your to do list. Activities that seemed like life or death may get dropped. You may find yourself engaging with different people or groups or even switching careers.

But don’t be afraid to slow down badly at first. Just give it a try. Notice how many times a day you check your phone just to fill space. Notice that you feel frantic most of the time. Notice that you literally don’t stop or take a deep breath all day.

Awareness starts to decondition. And it is the key to a mindful life. So start there. See what happens.

How are you building discipline this week by slowing down?

What Do Instead Of Making a New Year's Resolution

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During this time of year there is a big emphasis on setting goals and “bettering” ourselves. Sayings like “new year, new you” are everywhere. People are setting aggressive money saving, weight loss, dietary, or workout goals. I’ve seen a lot of people on social media saying thing to the gist of.. “2018 was a terrible a year, but here I come 2019. I’m going to turn it all around.” 

hmmm…

As much as I love goals and focusing on how to bring more intentional design to our lives, new years resolutions aren’t the way we successfully shift our lives.

Here are some harrowing statistics.. 

These aren’t hopeful …

So instead of engaging in something we know doesn’t work for most people, what can you do to actually make 2019 one of the best of your life?

Most of us have broken promises to ourselves much more than we have kept promises to ourselves. What would happen if you had a friend who said they would meet you for coffee at specific date and time and kept either no-showing to the date or making up last minute excuses? You probably wouldn’t trust them. Same goes with ourselves.

When we tell ourselves we’re going to loose weight or save money or change our diet or do more exciting things and we just continue to do the same things we’ve always done, we start to break trust with ourselves. We stop trusting ourselves. 


Then when we set big goals that involve intensive changes to the status quo it’s only a few days or at most a few weeks before we break our promise and go back to our old ways. 

Think about it this way..you’re not going to go on a week long trip to Mexico with your friend who keeps no-showing on you for coffee and you’re not going to trust yourself to eat “clean” and work out every day when you’re not even able to wake up an hour earlier each morning.

So what we need to do is build trust with ourselves in small ways. We need to go for the low hanging fruit. We need to make small changes that are relatively easy and build up from there. The daily habits. This isn’t a sexy proposition, as most people want to make big sweeping changes and see big sweeping results.. but big sweeping results are built from small, steady, consistent daily habits. 


I don’t want to completely disregard goal setting, so I do strongly encourage you to set S.M.A.R.T. (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound) goals for one, three and five years in the future. These an adjust and change as our lives and desires do, but we should always have a plan for where we’re headed if we want to live an intentional, consciously created life. 

However, the most important thing to do during this time of year when we’ve got all the fresh, new year energy is to choose five daily habits you know would make you feel better right now, in this moment.

We don’t want to focus on what we want to change as that is heavy and brings into focus how far we’ve got to go. Not a very motivating thought. But we do want to think about what could we do right now that would make us feel better, right now. That feels doable and empowering. Then make those actions daily habits by committing each one for 30 days before adding the new one.

Here are some examples of daily habits I’ve used this method with. 

  • Drink half your body weight in ounces (eg if you weight 200 pounds you would drink 100 ounces of water) in filtered water each day. 

  • Consistently take my supplements.

  • Add green veggies to every meal

  • Meditate for 20 minutes each morning (this could be 5 minutes if you’re new to mindfulness).

  • Sweat each day

  • Spend one hour undistracted with your partner or kids in the evening

  • Stop work at 6pm 

These daily habits are what is going to build a foundation upon which you trust yourself and keep your own promises to yourself.

So what are is the first daily habit you’re going to adopt this new year? 

 

4 Things I Learned From Doing "Nothing"

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From Christmas eve until January 3rd, I did absolutely nothing. 

Well, that’s not totally true..I did nothing for anyone else. I only did exactly what I wanted to do; moment by moment. I gave myself all the freedom. On the night of December 23rd, I put my phone in airplane mode and didn’t turn it back off until the morning of the 3rd.

No texts.

No emails.

No social media.

No messages.

No way for anyone to get a hold of me. 


So what did I actually do? I traveled to Sedona, Arizona and… 

  • I went to a 75 minute hot yoga class every morning.

  • I hiked around 40 miles over the course of 9 days.

  • I went to a new years eve 3 hour chanting and meditation session with a bunch of strangers that all turned into good friends.

  • I got a 90-min facial, a 90-min massage and my nails done. All in the same day. 

  • I met up with an old friend.

  • I watched a movie called “Call me by Your Name”.. it was really good, highly recommend it.

  • I slept in late.

  • I journaled and wrote about my dreams and aspirations. 

  • I honed those dreamy, free-writings into accomplishable 1 year, 3 year and 5 year goals. 

  • I broke the one year goals down into quarterly, monthly, weekly tasks, and even daily tasks.

  • I ate a lot of delicious food and chocolate and organic green juice.

  • I took about 5 long, hot baths

  • I went to a sound bath. 

  • I went to an ecstatic dance class.

  • I mapped out my travel for 2019.

  • I saw and explored the grand canyon.

  • I hung out in an airport watching silly holiday movies.

  • I read two books. 

  • I meditated for at least 40 minutes each day. 


I gave myself the gift of doing exactly what I wanted. So here’s 4 truths I’ve learned from giving myself what I most needed and wanted.

  1. Sometimes the best thing we can do for those around us is to give something to ourselves. Sacrifice can stunt those we think we’re helping. When we are true to ourselves, we help others be true to themselves.

  2. Even if we run our own business and have no employees or support, or have a super demanding job, we can totally disconnect without the world falling apart if we decide it’s what we need. We are responsible for how our lives unfold. The choice for what happens next in our lives is always our own. 

  3. People will always take whatever you give, and be happy with it. So it’s more up to you to decide how much you want to give (see number 1) and know that it will always be just the right amount. It’s up to you to temper your own giving.

  4. Our own self-care and self-honoring sets an example to anyone we come into contact with. Our own steadiness is our greatest gift to the ones around us. What we give and how we give can change the world—and we are always giving and teaching by our example. -or- How we live is our greatest gift to the world.

Sending you tidings of joy, love, and the deep knowledge that you are worthy of what you most want to give and receive in this world. The power is in your hands.









Winter Solstice Self Care Ritual

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I love thinking of living our lives in congruence with the seasons. Winter is a time for reflection, inward movement, rest and just ‘being.’

However, with the holidays in full swing sometimes this time of year can feel anything but restful.

If you’re searching for something to make you feel cherished and cared for.. give the gift of the following ritual to yourself.

If you want to learn more tips and tricks and hear about how you can join a 30 day cleanse + restore group process I invite you to register for the cleanse +restore 2019 online workshop on January 3rd, 2019 at 1pm MST.

Here’s the steps to your winter solstice self care ritual..

Step 1: Do something physical to get the blood moving. I love to do yoga because it feels delicious. For a home practice I love Yoga by Candace on youtube or Jennifer Pansa’s Earth Elements classes on YogiApproved.com.

[and if you need a yoga mat, please choose an eco-friendly one. Here is a sweet guide to help you through the decision.]

Step 2: Dry Skin brushing. This is an ancient practice of moving the lymph (the body’s garbage disposal system) towards the heart and lymph nodes where it is processed. To learn more about it or to see a “dry skin brush” go here.

Step 3: Take a cold as cold can be shower for 3-5 minutes with the shower water hitting you on the heart. This is obviously very shocking, but you’ll be surprised how amazing you feel afterwards. It’s also a powerful detoxifying practice as it act as a kind of water pressure cleaning of your capillaries as your blood is pumped to your extremities.

Step 4: Anoint yourself with oils. In Ayurvedic and Chinese medicine each person has a “dosha” or a constitution. For example, in Ayurvedic language I am a “pitta” dosha, or a fire constitution from Chinese medicine. Since I am fiery, I want to use oils that are “cooling.” Sesame oil is cooling, whereas coconut oil is warming. So people who fall into the air or earth doshas could use coconut oil, it’s better for me to use sesame oil on my body. Find out your dosha here.

For this step I take sesame oil plus 12 drops of CPTG (it is important to use CPTG essential oils) lavender essential oil and 12 drops frankincense essential oil. Buy your CPTG oils here.

[Here’s a report from a consumer advocate group that found doTERRA’s to be the purest essential oils on the market.]

I then apply this oil all over my body while massaging myself + telling my body how much I cherish it and how lovely it is. The gist here is rub yourself down with some oil while telling your body nice things.

Step 5: Soak in an epsom salt bath. My recipe is 2 cups epsom salt, 1 cup baking soda, and 20 drops essential oils of choice. I love serenity blend or deep blue blend for relaxing and feeling peaceful.

Step 6: Soak in the bath and read something you’re excited about or listen to some relaxing music or meditate. I love the Love Rising Podcast and the insight timer app.

When you’re ready to rise self care rituals like this show the universe you are ready to start to honor your body + your needs.

Take a picture of some part of this process and post instagram and tag me @revolutionarylifestyle. We’re all in this together!




Part 3: How I Stay Organized | The Steps to Clearing Space

So over the past few weeks I’ve been writing on the mindset of organization, the tools to stay organized, and this week is about brining it all together for a check list on how to stay organized, focused, and forward moving.

The biggest thing about getting things done, staying organized, and focused is to the way you perceive time.

Do you see time as a precious resource?
Do you see time as something that there is never enough of? 

Or do you tend to feel like you can make time up later? 

Are you a procrastinator or a doer? 

Do you consistently underestimate how long things will take or overestimate them? 

Know thyself, as they say, and it will be much easier to figure out what is at the bottom of your lack of focus or organization or struggle to meet the goals you set for yourself. 

Did you know that if we work 40 hrs/week and sleep 8 hours per night we still have 72 hours/week of time? Seems like a lot right? So what is this obsession with having no time? 

There is always a reason for EVERYTHING we do. Self sabotage? The sabotaging behavior is there for a reason. Instead of rallying against the behavior ask yourself what is that behavior giving you? Do you feel constantly unorganized? This is just resistance and an easy way to distract ourselves from our bigger work. Feeling unfocused or overwhelmed? It’s just a lack of priorities.

So the key to focus, organization and forward movement is always reevaluating, reflecting, and being aware of where your time is going and what stories you are telling yourself around it. So here’s the steps to getting organized you can do right now. **these steps are inspired by Ange Peter’s “Beautiful Life Lab”. 

  1. Write down three “stories” or “beliefs” you hold about time. This could be vague like “there is never enough time,” to specific like, “Having three kids means I have far less time than someone with one kid.” or “I don’t have time to meal plan because my job is super demanding.” or “I am more easily overwhelmed than others” These don’t necessarily have to be untrue, it’s just getting clear on what is going through your head when it comes to time. 

  2. Track your time by the half hour for at least three days. So for each half hour from when you wake up to when you go to sleep, write down what you did. 

  3. After you’ve tracked your time; total the amount of time you spent in these four categories: career, self care, relationships, personal development. You can also denote how much time you spent in the following categories: cleaning, exercise, family, driving, hobbies, sleeping, TV, eating/meal prep, social media, day dreaming. 

  4. When you’ve done this you’ve got a really good idea of where your time is leaking away. So take measures, set intentions to shift that. For example, if you spend way more time than you thought you did watching TV, you could move the TV out of the living room so you don’t have the temptation or set some sort of boundary on what you watch and stick to it. 

Once you’ve taken off your plate the most time-leaky behaviors you’ll be way better set up to create the spaciousness and clarity you need to take aligned action and not be a slave to your time perception stories. 

Good luck, loves! 

For a chance to win an essential oils starter kit, post a picture of you doing your organization steps on instagram and tag me @revolutionarylifestyle. 



Part 2: How I Stay Organized | The Tools

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Last week I wrote about the mindset of staying organized, managing your time, making time for the things you value most, and reaching your goals. This week let’s get into the tools I use for time management, goal setting and staying organized, and next week in the final piece of the series I’ll tie it all together.

Number one tool I use all day e’rrr day is google calendar. If you want to be more organized or are confused or at a loss about how to make more time for yourself and the things you value and you don’t have a calendar system, get one stat. It will create healthy boundaries around your time, plus take a lot of the decision fatigue out of your days, so you save your precious brain power for the important stuff. I love using the digital system because then it can sync with other peoples’ calendars, people can send me invites to meetings or appointments, and I can edit it from any of my devices; so it’s always available. Key here is using it religiously; for everything.

I know this may not be for everyone, but I schedule EVERYTHING. I schedule my morning meditation practice, my workouts, my coffee dates with friends, entering all my expenses into quickbooks, and even date nights with the hubs. It doesn’t sound sexy, but it works, and it’s the only way I manage to be relatively highly productive while also never feeling like I’m “too busy.”

Now, of course sometime life happens and my schedule doesn’t go as planned, but that is the exception; not the rule.

The next tool I use the most is trello. This is a relatively new tool for me (thanks to Cass of the The Wellness Rookie for encouraging me to try it out). I used to use google sheets in a very similar way to trello, but trello is for sure more aesthetically pleasing and fun to use.

Trello works as a project management software. One key to being able to take consistent action on big, hairy projects and goals, is breaking down the big stuff into small daily tasks. If you want to write a book, you gotta write the first paragraph and the the first chapter, so it’s easier for our brains to focus on the small achievable tasks. I like to take my big goals or projects and break them down in to 2 hour tasks.

Trello’s boards, lists, and cards enable you to organize and prioritize your projects in a fun, flexible and rewarding way. Trello also syncs on all your devices so you can also refer back to your projects no matter you are. Again, accessibility is key to actually using it. I also love that no matter when or where inspiration strikes I can always make notes in trello so that when I’m ready to sit down and work I have all my notes and ideas in one place. This is incredibly useful for staying organized, but still tapping into inspiration which isn’t something that comes on demand.

For example, let’s say you’re committed to starting a blog and building an online following. You’ve read that putting out consistent content is a big part of attracting readers and search engine optimization. So you decide that you will spend one hour writing a blog post every Tuesday at 10am. You’ve got all sorts of ideas! But then Tuesday at 10am rolls around your mind is totally blank. Nothing seems exciting to write about. Now, if you had been keeping a list of topics every time inspiration struck you could look over that list and start writing away, Trello is a place to keep all the to-do lists and organize tasks.

We can’t talk about organization and time management without talking about how to arm yourself against the onslaught of distractions that is our daily life. You cannot be focused, responsible with your time, and intentional if you don’t have some sort of policy around email, texting, social media, etc.

The tools I use to make sure I’m not spending lots of time just scrolling or replying to emails are called “screen time” on my phone and “stay focused” on the computer.

Screen time is a feature available on all iPhones. This feature allows you to set time limits for certain applications. So, for example, I set a 30 min time limit for facebook and instagram so once my 30 min is up for the day the app itself is blocked off. Stay focused works the same way for websites on your browser. You can get similar programs for android phones as well.

These are the main “tools” I use for intentional time management and organization.

Next week I’ll be back with Part 3: How I Stay Organized | Life Design.