emotional fitness

What to Do When You're Overwhelmed

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Do you ever feel overwhelmed?

Like, you look out over your day, the upcoming week and just have no idea how you're supposed to 'get it all done'?

What about feeling like if one more person asks you to do one more thing you might explode?

Overwhelm is THING these days.

Most people I talk to at my workshops, in my mentoring calls, and in my coaching sessions tell they feel burnt out, overwhelmed and at the end of their ropes when it comes to the thought of changing or adding one more thing to their to-do list.

The busyness issue is real.

Personally, I refuse to be “busy”. It feels disempowering. I decide where, why, when and how I do things, and that’s based on my priorities. When I feel overwhelmed I know that that is an indication that my priorities aren't clear. The overwhelm feeling is the indicator to me that I need to check in with what's really important to me.

One of the biggest hold ups with the people that I talk to is they feel like they CAN'T take things off their plate. Or they feel like they MUST do it all. Or they don't slow down enough to even think about what could be removed. They're just constantly reacting to everything. They feel totally powerless and are just reacting to one person's request after another.

So here's my four tips for when you're feeling overwhelmed to claim your power and get your priorities clear again.

1. Become really, really hard to get a hold of for at least one day (maybe more days).

This means: no social media, no texting, no phone calls, no listening to other people's demands on your time. Part of why we might feel overwhelmed is that we are putting other people's needs before our own. That is a recipe for burn out. So just for one day; become really, really hard to get ahold of. Maybe you camp out in a coffee shop getting the stuff that YOU need to get done, done. Maybe you go to the spa and treat yo' self. Maybe you just take a day to be completely disconnected at home; a "sick" day if you will. But take a day, or four where you're focusing on YOU.

2. Get in the habit of using a planner.

If you don't use an online calendar of some sort, it's time to bite the bullet and just do it. Seriously. One reason why people get stuck in the overwhelm state is because they don't have systems. Their poor brains are trying to keep track of everything. Google calendar is my tool of choice (I LIVE by my calendar) but there are others like iCal or Outlook, but pick one, and move all your appointments, work meetings, personal coffee dates, EVERYTHING to it. I’m strongly recommending an online calendaring system because you can create reminders, recurring events, and access it from your phone, your computer or your iPad, so you’ll never be without it. Yes, it will take a little bit of learning how to use on the front end, but you will be so happy you did.

3. Have medicinal grade essential oils diffusing around you as much as possible.

There's this almost magical effect having pure medicinal grade essential oils diffusing around you, and that is that they calm your nervous system, allow you to focus, and help you remember the world is not ending if you don't get your email inbox cleared out. We can use essential oils to help motivate us, to help cheer us up, or to give us a sense of reassuring peace. They can ground up and help us remember to breathe. They boost our immune system, they support our organs, and so much more. They are truly one of the BEST tools we have for our mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health. Use them! If you're in Montana, check out my live upcoming classes below or you're always welcome to book a complimentary one on one medicinal essential oils session with me here: http://bit.ly/freeoilsconsult

4. Ask yourself what is really important to you.

This piggy backs on the priorities aspect of overwhelm I talked about earlier. But knowing what you TRULY value in life is of utmost importance when we're talking about living a life that feels fulfilling. It's easy to get swept up in the wave of watching what other people are doing and feeling like we must do more or be different, or feeling like you have to go the extra mile for work, or adding IN a new exercise routine without taking anything else OUT of your already overloaded life. But what do YOU actually value? What do YOU actually want to do with your time in the day? Maybe you've been pushing yourself super hard at work because you think you should want to make a lot of money, but really you value cozy time at home with your family. Maybe you've been driving your kids all over the state to soccer tournaments, but your values really don't align with spending lots of time at practices and games? Get REAL with yourself here. What is really important to you?


Men Too

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I am a woman who believes that my main purpose on this Earth is to bring love where there has been no love before. To expand into and through Love.

Sometimes I see this purpose being fulfilled by guiding and standing beside other women while they awaken to their innate worthiness. I offer practices, information, ideas, and methodologies that have helped me clear the channel to my inner divinity, and therefore may help other women do the same.

Kind of in the vein of the quote by Zan Romanoff, "Hope isn't valid unless it's being espoused by someone who is keenly aware of the stupid, shitty, petty pointlessness of life," I am committed to espousing my brand of hope and truth from an authentic, honest, and clear-about-what-it-takes place. It's definitely not always easy to live a life based in real Truth. It takes courage. It takes guts. It takes riding the waves of emotion and trusting that you have the power to alchemize anything and everything the world throws at you into love. A life lived like this will not always be pretty and it will a lot of the time feel like you are continually, perpetually walking into the dark unknown. 

My work is almost exclusively with women and I know, deeply and personally, that women need to feel empowered and enlivened for this world to come back into balance and be able to hold more Love and Truth.

But, because I am committed to consistently stepping into the unknown and taking the posture of seeing beyond "normal" everyday interpretations of the world, I’ve been thinking about men's role in this "feminine rising." I’ve been seeing more clearly what is going on in the world of #metoo. Seeing it for a painful imbalance in our masculine & feminine energies.

The travesties that happen to women on a daily basis; and have been happening for thousands of years, must come to the surface to be healed. We must process now the anger that has been brewing under the surface, that stems from the boundaries that have been massively and repeatedly disrespected and obliterated. We must rise up in Love & say, “No more.”

But we also must understand this one fact: all minds are joined.

When women are hurt, disrespected, preyed upon, men feel that too. Men are victims of this travesty as well, in different ways. The sadness and constriction that comes with not being able to freely express emotions weighs heavy on the male half of our psyches. The idea that emotions are weak hurts us to the core and makes us feel insecure.

The fact that so many men are so disconnected from their true essence that they seek comfort in shallow sexual interactions and don’t even seem capable of deep commitment because they’ve never been taught to commit truly to themselves, is deeply tragic.

The suppression of feelings and the accepted idea of “strong & silent” type is rippling through everything; relationships, business, politics, and its just as important an issue to talk about and bring awareness to.

So... if you’re a man out there reading this know that when I talk about feminine empowerment I am not simply talking about females, I’m talking about ALL of us stepping more harmoniously into BOTH of our halves. I am talking about empowering the harmony between male and female, in all of us. This is what will really start to shift us into a consciousness that serves Love equally and more deeply.