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What to Do When You're Overwhelmed

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Do you ever feel overwhelmed?

Like, you look out over your day, the upcoming week and just have no idea how you're supposed to 'get it all done'?

What about feeling like if one more person asks you to do one more thing you might explode?

Overwhelm is THING these days.

Most people I talk to at my workshops, in my mentoring calls, and in my coaching sessions tell they feel burnt out, overwhelmed and at the end of their ropes when it comes to the thought of changing or adding one more thing to their to-do list.

The busyness issue is real.

Personally, I refuse to be “busy”. It feels disempowering. I decide where, why, when and how I do things, and that’s based on my priorities. When I feel overwhelmed I know that that is an indication that my priorities aren't clear. The overwhelm feeling is the indicator to me that I need to check in with what's really important to me.

One of the biggest hold ups with the people that I talk to is they feel like they CAN'T take things off their plate. Or they feel like they MUST do it all. Or they don't slow down enough to even think about what could be removed. They're just constantly reacting to everything. They feel totally powerless and are just reacting to one person's request after another.

So here's my four tips for when you're feeling overwhelmed to claim your power and get your priorities clear again.

1. Become really, really hard to get a hold of for at least one day (maybe more days).

This means: no social media, no texting, no phone calls, no listening to other people's demands on your time. Part of why we might feel overwhelmed is that we are putting other people's needs before our own. That is a recipe for burn out. So just for one day; become really, really hard to get ahold of. Maybe you camp out in a coffee shop getting the stuff that YOU need to get done, done. Maybe you go to the spa and treat yo' self. Maybe you just take a day to be completely disconnected at home; a "sick" day if you will. But take a day, or four where you're focusing on YOU.

2. Get in the habit of using a planner.

If you don't use an online calendar of some sort, it's time to bite the bullet and just do it. Seriously. One reason why people get stuck in the overwhelm state is because they don't have systems. Their poor brains are trying to keep track of everything. Google calendar is my tool of choice (I LIVE by my calendar) but there are others like iCal or Outlook, but pick one, and move all your appointments, work meetings, personal coffee dates, EVERYTHING to it. I’m strongly recommending an online calendaring system because you can create reminders, recurring events, and access it from your phone, your computer or your iPad, so you’ll never be without it. Yes, it will take a little bit of learning how to use on the front end, but you will be so happy you did.

3. Have medicinal grade essential oils diffusing around you as much as possible.

There's this almost magical effect having pure medicinal grade essential oils diffusing around you, and that is that they calm your nervous system, allow you to focus, and help you remember the world is not ending if you don't get your email inbox cleared out. We can use essential oils to help motivate us, to help cheer us up, or to give us a sense of reassuring peace. They can ground up and help us remember to breathe. They boost our immune system, they support our organs, and so much more. They are truly one of the BEST tools we have for our mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health. Use them! If you're in Montana, check out my live upcoming classes below or you're always welcome to book a complimentary one on one medicinal essential oils session with me here: http://bit.ly/freeoilsconsult

4. Ask yourself what is really important to you.

This piggy backs on the priorities aspect of overwhelm I talked about earlier. But knowing what you TRULY value in life is of utmost importance when we're talking about living a life that feels fulfilling. It's easy to get swept up in the wave of watching what other people are doing and feeling like we must do more or be different, or feeling like you have to go the extra mile for work, or adding IN a new exercise routine without taking anything else OUT of your already overloaded life. But what do YOU actually value? What do YOU actually want to do with your time in the day? Maybe you've been pushing yourself super hard at work because you think you should want to make a lot of money, but really you value cozy time at home with your family. Maybe you've been driving your kids all over the state to soccer tournaments, but your values really don't align with spending lots of time at practices and games? Get REAL with yourself here. What is really important to you?


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9 Steps to Get Yourself Out of a Funk

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Here is an instructional post for you and me about how to pull yourself out of a funk. (this is for me to refer back to as well).

1. Decide to change your state. Notice that you are in a low vibe, frustrated, sad or angry state, then take your power back and decide to move into action to change your state. You can’t get to feeling good by doing more of something that is making you frustrated.

2. Drink at least 20 ounces of warmish water. Add one drop grapefruit essential oil (ONLY with doTERRA essential oils, you CANNOT ingest other oils) to give you that oomph of metabolism boost.

3. Roll some Rose Touch oil under your eyes and over your heart. Add a little peppermint oil behind your ears. BOOM!

4. Draw about 10 circles of cheer blend in the palm of your hand and run it through your hair. Breathe this juice in too - your brain will know what to do.

5. Get outside and get your barefoot on the ground. Find some plants to “talk” with and let them know how glad you are they are there.

6. Call a friend or your mom.

7. Help a friend or acquaintance with something they are feeling stuck in. Or simply do something nice for someone else. It is scientifically proven that helping people makes us feel better.

8. Send a few notes of gratitude to people who you haven’t talked to in awhile. Comment something nice and heartfelt on a friend’s post on social media.

9. Journal about what you are most excited about doing in the next couple months. Use some grapefruit + rosemary oil in the diffuser to help with a loving transition. Journal prompt: How can what I’m struggling with be made easy? What are some creative ways I can get what I need to get done in a way that is fun and feels good.

These 9 steps are guaranteed to get you in a better mood in no time.💪🏼



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5 Self-Care Practices That Are Working For Me Right Now

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I've been feeling pretty dang good, so good that I thought I would share my nonnegotiable self-care practices that are working for me right now, because I feel like I'm on to something... ; ) 


1. Drinking warm lemon water with a pinch of sea salt right when I wake up


This is an oldie, but a goodie.

It is my go-to advice. If you're a client of mine, I know you've heard this. If you're a friend of mine, I know you've heard this. If you're anyone that has ever stood near me, you've probably hear this... 

Here's why... 
There are four pillars of physical health in my mind: 

  1. Hydration 
  2. Sleep 
  3. nutritious food 
  4. Stress management 

We live in the real world though and it’s not very likely that you’re going to be able to do all of these perfectly all of them time. 

But when we have these four pillars in mind we can make sure we focus on what we can, when one isn't doable. 

This means, that when I know I’m going to be extra stressed or not going to be able to get as much sleep as I know would be best for me, I’ll up the hydration and I’ll up the nutritious food. Or when I’m traveling and I know I won’t be able to eat as well as normal, I’ll make sure I’m doing my stress management and drinking lots of water. 


Starting your day off with a large glass of water is one way to make sure you’re always getting a head start on the hydration. If you do the added lemon (I do the juice from half a lemon) then it helps with detox as well as kick starts your digestion. If you do the warm water, it just makes it a little easier for your body to absorb. Drink the water before coffee and you’re golden. 


2. Writing down 3 things I’m grateful for every day


Gratitude is literally the antidote to almost everything. 

If we can bring ourselves back to gratitude for what we have, we keep our vibe high and our minds focused on all the good things in our lives. If you read my stuff, you know that I’m all for accepting and loving those “negative” emotions, but dwelling on the bad in your life never made anyone feel good. 

Gratitude sets you free. 

Makes you feel good. 

Even in the most trying situations. 


I have a special little notebook I carry around with me and every morning I start my day by writing down 3 things I’m grateful for. 

Sometimes it’s as simple as, “I am grateful for my pillow,” and other days it’s bigger, “I’m grateful for my purpose.” 

The other awesome side effect of actually writing them down and making a habit of writing them down, is that throughout your day you’re looking for things to be grateful for and this keeps your thoughts and mind expecting the best. 
You’re asking yourself throughout the day, “What can I be grateful for today?”

Magic. 



3. Dancing every evening. (hey! Dancing DEFINITELY counts as self-care) 


This is something that is relatively new and seems kind of comical to actually have on my “to do” list. But here’s why I made it a nonnegotiable. 

First off, we all need more fun and play in our lives and dancing is freaking fun for me. It ALWAYS cheers me up. 

The second reason for my new dancing obsession is that I found I was getting really stuck in my head all day. All our professional work these days is very mental, cerebral, and that can make us disregard our bodies which leads to feelings of distraction, spacey-ness, feelings of disconnection and a decrease in our ability to be aroused and have sexual desire.


Dancing gives me that playful feeling and allows me to connect back into my body, allowing me to be more sexual, sensual and experience more pleasure. All good things! 



4. Check-Ins on the New Moon and on the Full Moon


I love the idea of cycles. 

We are cyclical beings. Especially as women. 

We need to remember that there is a time for planning; a time for resting and recuperating; and a time for doing.

 Our society tends to be very productivity and “doing” oriented and it’s not serving us well. People are stressed out, experiencing high levels of depression and anxiety, dis-ease. 

Connecting into our cyclical nature allows us to connect back in to nature, cycles, and gives us permission and regular intervals to reevaluate and take inventory and tap into what we need. 

The new moon ritual or check in is based around planting new seeds and intentions for the moon cycle to come. It’s a time for setting goals, getting clear about what I want, and how I am going to get it. 

The full moon ritual or check in is based around evaluation and shedding what doesn’t serve. It’s a time to be honest with ourselves about what is and isn’t working and create the space to allow what is not working to fall away and make space for something new. 

These new moon and full moon “rituals” typically are just an hour or so in the evening of the day of new moon and the day of the full moon.

It goes like this: My husband and I gather, put on some nice relaxing music, light a candle and a bundle of sage, and go through our check-in worksheets (linked below). 

We simply discuss and share what we wrote. Nothing more than that. 

This has also had a great unexpected side effect of providing time for my husband and I to connect on the state of our relationship and communicate on deeper levels than we’re normally prompted to do in every day life.

Life can get so “go, go, go” that a month can easily go by without us checking in with our families and our loved ones. These rituals have allowed us to carve out that time to check in with ourselves and each other. Priceless. 

Download my New Moon and Full Moon Ritual worksheets here


5. Using Essential Oils throughout the day


So essential oils are becoming a deep, deep love of mine, and you'll definitely be hearing a lot more about them. 

They have the ability to change your mood in an instant. They have the ability to change the entire feel of a room. 


I’ve started using them throughout my day in so many ways and they’ve literally changed so much about how I experience frustration, exhaustion, food cravings, mediation, sickness.. the list goes on. 

To keep it as brief as possible, here’s my typical daily essential oils routine: 

  • wake up, put water in the diffuser with wild orange and peppermint (hello bright shiny morning vibes!) 
  • during my morning meditation practice I’ll use rose, jasmine, or frankincense to ground me and clear my chakras. 
  • Apply the hormone balancing Clary Calm blend to my lower abdomen to keep hormones balanced and healthy throughout stressful days. 
  • Use passion blend throughout the workday when I’m feeling uninspired or sluggish. 
  • Diffuse balance, serenity, citrus bliss, elevation blend (all sorts! I can’t really say exactly what I use) throughout the day in my office to keep me feeling like I’m in a spa… ; ) 
  • Use on guard when I’m sick, imortelle on my face for anti-aging benefits, rosemary in my shampoo, deep blue with sore muscles, breathe when I do yoga.. Ok this is just crazy, but you get the point. It’s ALL THE TIME.
  • 30 min before bed I always start the bedroom diffuser with something relaxing like lavender and cedar wood or roman chamomile. 


**Interested in getting some medicinal grade essential oils? I am an essential oils educator and wellness advocate with doTERRA essential oils and would love to chat with you about how to use oils to address areas of your life where you need some self-care. Email me at revolutionaryhelpdesk@gmail.com to schedule a phone call. 

Ok, so those are 5 self-care practices that are working for me right now...

Now let me know, what's working for you?