my sisters, com closer.. you’re monthly cycle is not a weakness, curse or an inconvenience. They are an invitation to tap in, tune in, + turn on our inner powers of creation + rebirth.
While I’m on my period I always find I need to take a little extra time for myself.
Our periods are such an amazing time to slow down, turn inward, and really harness our feminine power. In this day and age I think a lot women despise their periods. We get cramps, we’re moody and sensitive, and everything just seems harder. When I was on the pill I would purposefully skip my periods because they seemed like such a bother.
But now, I’ve realized how incredibly sacred cycling is. I’ve started to embrace this time of the month as the perfect time for reflection and deep self love. During our periods are when we are most spiritually astute and in tune. It’s when “the veil” between worlds is thinnest, so to speak. That’s why we get sensitive. We get “moody”, which is really just patronizing speak for being able to pick up on a lot of complex emotions and feelings. When we are in this ultra connected state we have to ‘do’ less and ‘be’ more.
Cramping, nausea, heat regulation issues, and the other physical symptoms of our periods, when extreme, can be a sign of hormonal imbalances as well as disconnection from our feminine side. In a way it’s “She” calling out for us to listen to Her.
A lot of hormonal imbalance comes from our bodies having a hard time detoxifying and processing synthetic hormones from birth control, artificial fragrances, and chemicals in our food that act similar to hormones. So if you have extremely painful cramping or other extreme symptoms, there are a lot of very successful natural ways to balance hormones. Reach out to me and we can get you set up on a natural path to healing.
Even with well-balanced hormones and a good practice of listening to ourselves and self care, we can still get some light cramping, fatigue, headaches, etc. Our bodies are doing A LOT internally doing that time, so we need to give them a break.
For me, the second day of my period always seems to be the day where my body really calls for some tenderness. So I’ve developed a self care ritual that makes me felt cared for, marks this special time of the month, and creates a sense of trust between myself and my body. It also supports detoxification of hormones and soothes any symptoms I might be having.
Step 1: Do something physical to get the blood moving. I love to do yoga because it feels delicious. For a home practice I love Yoga by Candace on youtube or Jennifer Pansa’s Earth Elements classes on YogiApproved.com. Make sure this something gentle. During our periods exercising should be smooth, flowing, and gentle. No hardcore workouts please.
Step 2: Dry brushing. This is an ancient practice of moving the lymph (the body’s garbage disposal system) towards the heart and lymph nodes where it is processed. To learn more about it or to see a “dry skin brush” go here.
Step 3: Take a cold as cold can be shower for 3-5 minutes with the shower water hitting you on the heart. This is obviously very shocking, but you’ll be surprised how amazing you feel afterwards. It’s also a powerful detoxifying practice as it act as a kind of water pressure cleaning of your capillaries as your blood is pumped to your extremities.
Step 4: Anoint yourself with oils. In Ayurvedic and Chinese medicine each person has a “dosha” or a constitution. For example, in Ayurvedic language I am a “pitta” dosha, or a fire constitution from Chinese medicine. Since I am fiery, I want to use oils that are “cooling.” Sesame oil is cooling, whereas coconut oil is warming. So people who fall into the air or earth doshas could use coconut oil, it’s better for me to use sesame oil on my body. Find your dosha here.
For this step, I take sesame oil plus 12 drops of CPTG (it is important to use CPTG essential oils) lavender essential oil and 12 drops frankincense essential oil. I then apply this oil all over my body while massaging myself and telling my body how much I cherish it and how lovely it is. The gist here is rub yourself down with some oil while telling your body nice things.
Step 5: Soak in an epsom salt bath. My recipe is 2 cups epsom salt, 1 cup baking soda, and 20 drops essential oils of choice. I love serenity blend or deep blue blend for relaxing and feeling peaceful.
Step 6: Soak in the bath and read something you’re excited about or listen to some relaxing music or meditate.
Do this and you’ll feel like a totally new person. I promise.
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I am a woman who believes that my main purpose on this Earth is to bring love where there has been no love before. To expand into and through Love.
Sometimes I see this purpose being fulfilled by guiding and standing beside other women while they awaken to their innate worthiness. I offer practices, information, ideas, and methodologies that have helped me clear the channel to my inner divinity, and therefore may help other women do the same.
Kind of in the vein of the quote by Zan Romanoff, "Hope isn't valid unless it's being espoused by someone who is keenly aware of the stupid, shitty, petty pointlessness of life," I am committed to espousing my brand of hope and truth from an authentic, honest, and clear-about-what-it-takes place. It's definitely not always easy to live a life based in real Truth. It takes courage. It takes guts. It takes riding the waves of emotion and trusting that you have the power to alchemize anything and everything the world throws at you into love. A life lived like this will not always be pretty and it will a lot of the time feel like you are continually, perpetually walking into the dark unknown.
My work is almost exclusively with women and I know, deeply and personally, that women need to feel empowered and enlivened for this world to come back into balance and be able to hold more Love and Truth.
But, because I am committed to consistently stepping into the unknown and taking the posture of seeing beyond "normal" everyday interpretations of the world, I’ve been thinking about men's role in this "feminine rising." I’ve been seeing more clearly what is going on in the world of #metoo. Seeing it for a painful imbalance in our masculine & feminine energies.
The travesties that happen to women on a daily basis; and have been happening for thousands of years, must come to the surface to be healed. We must process now the anger that has been brewing under the surface, that stems from the boundaries that have been massively and repeatedly disrespected and obliterated. We must rise up in Love & say, “No more.”
But we also must understand this one fact: all minds are joined.
When women are hurt, disrespected, preyed upon, men feel that too. Men are victims of this travesty as well, in different ways. The sadness and constriction that comes with not being able to freely express emotions weighs heavy on the male half of our psyches. The idea that emotions are weak hurts us to the core and makes us feel insecure.
The fact that so many men are so disconnected from their true essence that they seek comfort in shallow sexual interactions and don’t even seem capable of deep commitment because they’ve never been taught to commit truly to themselves, is deeply tragic.
The suppression of feelings and the accepted idea of “strong & silent” type is rippling through everything; relationships, business, politics, and its just as important an issue to talk about and bring awareness to.
So... if you’re a man out there reading this know that when I talk about feminine empowerment I am not simply talking about females, I’m talking about ALL of us stepping more harmoniously into BOTH of our halves. I am talking about empowering the harmony between male and female, in all of us. This is what will really start to shift us into a consciousness that serves Love equally and more deeply.
As a lot of women and men out there this week I’m sure, I’ve been thinking a lot about the #metoo phenomenon. The sheer amount of social media posts from friends, family members, online influencers, etc who have posted this message of solidarity against the objectification of women, doesn’t exactly surprise me but it has definitely required me to sit with some unpleasant emotions of sadness, outrage, hopelessness and anger.
When our world is swept up into a movement like this there are always so many voices, wise and unwise, true and untrue, so many subtleties that go unaddressed or are spoken about to the point nonsense. I would never want to assume I understand or know more than I do about the uniqueness of every woman’s deeply personal experience of degradation or injustice.
But, there are some things I do know for sure: I know that I have personally, on many levels, been harassed, exploited, and used by men. I know that I feel and carry with me the unspeakable wounds inflicted on my precious body and my sisters’ bodies and minds every day consciously and unconsciously. I know that when we humans hurt each other we are not just hurting the other person, we are hurting ourselves. We cannot give without receiving, and we cannot hurt without being hurt. I know that women have been raped, abused and mistreated for lifetimes and that this weighs on each and every one of our souls.
I also know that to truly heal we must brave the sea of despair. We must look at the Truth of the abuse square in the face, and step into the darkness beyond it. That is why, I know for sure that outrage is part of the healing process. I know that for us to truly heal, as a society and as individuals, we must allow the cleansing power of our anger to wash over us, and give us the inner light to navigate the unknown territory of forgiveness.
Anger reminds us of the Truth of our worth. To recover from being violated, personally and collectively, we must use the alchemical fire of anger to transform the hurt and pain into power. We use anger to realize and take action towards reclaiming our power, without apology. It gives us the power to sail on that sea of hopeless and trust that there is another shore, a better shore. If you feel sad, shocked, abused, mistreated, properly channeled outrage is the power that moves you through.
As Bethany Webster said so perfectly: “Do what so few dare to do: Give your anger a safe, empathic space to be fully, completely felt. Harness it, listen to it. Anger has so many gifts. Not indiscriminate, projected anger, but the energy of outrage, felt and placed where it truly belongs. Collective female outrage is a nectar that this world needs.”
So be brave. Feel the anger. This is what healing feels like.