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Be The Change

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Ghandi said, “Be the change you would like to see in the world.”

These words can almost be cliche now, but let’s really think about the deep, deep wisdom they hold.


I am feeling more and more convicted as I watch and observe the world around me that I MUST, with my actions, demonstrate what I would most like to see.


So many others have said it in different ways…

Glennon Doyle Melton said: "It doesn't matter what you say you think, it matters what we do.”


Don't know who said: "Practice what you preach." "Lead by example" "When we heal ourselves we heal the world." “Empowered people, empower people.” and on and on.
Just because it's been said before doesn't mean it shouldn't be said again.

There is something in me pushing up old stories, old patterns, old bullshit for me and I need the reminder to move inward.


The reminder to be honest with myself. And make sure that I am demonstrating what I would most like to see in the world, which is forever: More forgiveness. More understanding. More Love. More freedom.


It starts with me.

It starts with us: The gentle. The forgiving. The humble. The ones who know the darkness in the world is only a reflection of the darkness we harbor toward ourselves. When I can't forgive someone it's because I am not forgiving a part of myself. When there is judgement, there is contraction and love cannot flow unimpeded.

And love is the only thing that heals.


Real change comes when we give up the game of right and wrong. When we lay down our need to be validated and fall into each other's arms and know we are the same.


Come home all my parts. All my broken and haggard.

Come scream and cry and rage TOGETHER. Let us realize we are the fire of transformation.

Come re-member the love that flows through us. Come re-member who we are.

Come be forgiven.

Come have a seat at my table.

Come help me build a world where the collective pain is not fought against (no more separation) but accepted and only then, transcended.


Allow yourself to be still today and ask yourself what you really want to see in this world and go out and demonstrate just that.

If you feel the call to be guided in a mindfulness practice I have some you can download in my offerings here: https://www.clarawisner.com/meditations


Is Your Body Calling to Slow Down?

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This week I have been feeling a call to turn inward.

 

In the past I might have viewed this feeling as laziness, lack of motivation, or just generally that “something was wrong with me.” I would have fought it. I would have pushed at it and said, “C’mon, get moving! We’ve got STUFF to DO! I can’t have you moping around and making me feel like I’m stuck in a vat of honey all the time.” 

 

But now, with more discernment and understanding of myself and my tendencies, I don’t see this feeling as something that needs to be “pushed” through or changed in anyway. I simply recognize it as my inner being calling for a phase of rebuilding, recuperating, retreating inwards. 

 

To exhale, we must inhale. 

 

For the summer to come we’ve got to have a winter. 

 

These are the truths of nature and of life.

 

In a society that values “getting shit done” and “productivity” and material gain above almost anything else; slowing down and giving up productivity and material gain in exchange for more time spent ‘being’ with ourselves can feel almost shameful. 

 

That’s where that voice urging my desire for stillness to go away comes from. It comes from the idea that if I stop and slow down and listen to the parts of me that may want to some rest, some peace, some re-membering of something deeper, that I will somehow loose my spot in the proverbial line of life. That if I don’t “keep up” I’ll be unloved and left behind and also, *gasp* that I might not be a “good” person. A “good” person works really hard, sacrifices, and pushes through discomfort, after all. 

 

Right? 

 

Not for me. I have experienced being that exhausted person, and I’m willing to be most of us have or are experiencing that hollow, fatigue-worn place of attempting to “do it all.” It’s not fun. It’s not what I want my life to look like.

 

So when I feel the call to turn inward I do it. It doesn’t mean my entire life comes to a half. There are a thousand ways to do one thing, and I figure out a way to put my to-do list on the chopping block, eliminate unnecessary tasks (hire a cleaning lady or let the house get dirty, cook simpler, easier meals or eat the same thing over and over again, take a bath instead of checking the email at night), and give myself a little extra wiggle room in my calendar. Take a self-care day. Dance. Go for long walks surrounded by nature. 

 

One thing that I love to do when I’m feeling that inward call is to energetically explore my heart space. The heart space is where we experience our inner innocence. In the space of the heart we can actually experience the part of ourselves that is completely clear and pure. The part of us that is never tarnished by experiences, perceived mistakes and failures. The energetic space of the heart is the place we need to ground in to when we are feeling unworthy, shameful or broken. 

 

As gift to all of you I have recorded a practice I use during these times of internal reconnection. Please download it here (https://www.clarawisner.com/meditations) and use for yourself if you feel called. 

 

It's All Connected

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“It’s all connected. Your gifts, your circumstances, your imperfections, your destiny, your journey. It’s molding you. Embrace it.” 

I read this quote yesterday and it was one of those ah-ha moments. These moments sometimes hit me like a ton of bricks. Like someone’s been trying to explain something to me, and I’m kind of getting it, but then it all falls into place, and I see the tunnel of light leading me out of the darkness. 

You know what I mean? 

This clarity seems likes it’s never more than a split second, a little flash of Truth. Your head coming up for air, and looking around, and realizing that you thought you were drowning but you’ve actually been choosing to swim under water. 

But then, you dunk right back under and start the struggle again. Ah..so is life. The problem is, we’ve got so much momentum built up around our suffering, our struggles, our story, and staying in our heads. This momentum keeps doing things we know don’t work, just because we’ve done them before. Keeps us stuck, in a rut, spinning our wheels with the same beliefs and expectations for ourselves, because it’s “known”. 

However, these flashes of clarity, more and more leave me with a resonance. Even when I’m back under water, drowning in all the to dos, the need to’s, the plans, the expectations, I have this trace of remembrance, like something right on the tip of my tongue. A remembering that life can be sweet, simple, easy, and beautiful. A knowing that all is well and right. 

This quote gave me that flash of “I’ve got it!” 

An, “Oh my god!” moment. All of this struggle, all of this doubt, all of this uncertainty, it’s all part of IT. It’s sharpening my knife of capability. It’s strengthening my resolve. It’s molding me into who I need to be to be the best life-player I can be. 

How cool is that? That I can see all the challenges I’m being presented with in my life as opportunities to hone my skills. And trust that it is all happening FOR me and not TO me. How cool is it that we all get the choice to see our challenges this way, if we choose to. 

Another mantra I’ve been repeating to myself lately is, “My circumstances are not who I am, they are where I am.” Circumstances can change in an instant. The fact that you are 30 years old, living with your parents and jobless, does not make you a worse person than your friend who is the same age and makes six figures has designer furniture and a laberdoodle. 

Our circumstances do not define us. The help us. They lead us towards the lessons we need to learn to be the best possible us we can be. 

I know, I know, this might sound totally cheesy, but I’m writing this as much for myself as all of you. When we look at the hardships in our lives as stepping stones, leading us home, we can come up for air more often. 

We can bask in the luminosity of divine guidance and presence.

We can have trust and faith that we can choose to see this moment as an opportunity to come home. 

To remember our innate worthiness. 

To lighten-up. 

To get out of our head and back into our precious bodies. 

So, for anyone out there struggling to make sense of things, struggling to get out of bed in the morning, or to take care of themselves, remember: 

“It’s all connected. Your gifts, your circumstances, your imperfections, your destiny, your journey. It’s molding you. Embrace it.” 

Sacred Rituals

What is a sacred ritual?

These two words might conjure up images of naked women dancing around a bomb fire, or pagan sacrifices, or maybe even a taking communion at a church. Or, like me, you could have flashbacks of Buffy the Vampire Slayer reading out of some ancient book and casting spells. It could also illicit an eye-roll or two. I'm OK with that. I get it. 

If you would, please, suspend these preconceived notions about what a sacred ritual looks like or is for the duration of the time it takes to read this.

What if sacred rituals were just little actions we partook in that reminded us that there are circumstances in this world that are mysterious and out-of-of-our-control-in-a-good-way? 

We typically want everything in our life to have some semblance of control. We like comfort, consistency, and safety. This makes sense! We should want to have shelter, food, and the guarantee that our life isn't in danger. 

However, when we cling to this idea of needing-to-know too desperately, we are completely thrown off when things (inevitably) show us that we don't always have control. 

Typically, when we do realize we're not in control our mind immediately goes to the worst possible scenario.  As Gabby Bernstein explains in her book "The Universe Has Your Back" we live our lives like we're the girl in the horror movie just about to have something awful jump out in front of her. We're throwing popcorn at the screen and saying "DON'T DO IT!! YOU'RE GONNA GET HURT!!!".

The funny thing is, unlike the predictable horror movie, there normally isn't a bad guy around the corner. We're typically totally OK, and even when we're not, we typically figure it out. But we put a lot of unnecessary stress on ourselves by constantly being in the scene. 

What if the unknown or the mysterious didn't send us into a horror movie but gave us a sense of awe and wonder? 

What if instead of using our imaginations to create awful scenarios, we create beautiful ones?

Is it really that much crazier to think that taking the time to give a little offering of prayer and love to the universe could positively affect the outcome of a difficult situation, than (one of my recurring horror scenes) to feel like you're DEFINITELY going to die while you're driving in a snowstorm? We always seem to believe in the bad projections of the future and scoff at the possibility that there could be wondrous outcomes. 

Here in Bali, each day people put these little offerings (called on their doorsteps and around their home and light incense. They take the time and put the effort into creating these beautiful little offerings. These offerings are a repeated act of faith by Balinese Hindus and can be infused with intentions, prayers, or just simply put out to ask for good fortune. 

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Can you imagine if every person spent the time and effort of putting together a beautiful little offering and lit some incense every morning?

And so I've been thinking about this question. About the role of sacred rituals and how I might be able to create them in my life in the modern world. My feeling is that if we made time for something that felt like a sacred ritual in our lives we would feel more connected to the magic in our souls and ultimately more joyful. We would direct more of our abundant imaginative energy towards the positive instead of reliving our horror movie scene over and over. 

These sacred rituals are less about what we do, but more about how we do it. Whatever you do, do it with reverence and appreciation of something larger than just our daily routine, you can literally infuse anything with sacredness if you see it from a larger point of view. 

We are multi-dimensional beings and acknowledging our sacredness could connect us more to the aspects of ourselves that get pushed aside in our daily grind, and turn us on to the positive possibilities that come from releasing control with love instead of fear. 

So light some incense tonight. Say some prayers. Have a hot bath and honor your sacred body.

Do something that feels like it has magic in it and let me know how you feel after.... ✨💫

If you're interested in partaking in a sacred ritual but have no idea where to start I have recorded one of mine. Watch it here. Use this ritual for planting new 'seeds' in your life. A perfect time to practice this is on the night of the new moon, but it can be practiced at any time you feel you need to get back to neutral and imagine new and postive outcomes. 

 

A Simple Practice to Let Go of Self-Limiting Beliefs

We all have self-limiting beliefs. They're the beliefs we hold that keep us from trying new things, keep us from fully trusting in our selves, and creating the life that we desire. They're the beliefs that tell us we're not 'good' enough, not smart enough, or not 'attractive' enough. These are beliefs that may have served us in the past and are a part of how we developed as a person. There's nothing wrong with them. However, when we know we're destined for bigger and better things sometimes we have to face these beliefs so we can leave them behind.

Here is a simple practice I've used many, many times on my own self-limiting beliefs and have embraced as a part of my daily practice. 

Step 1: Write down all limiting beliefs fears you have about life/dietary changes/the future/your health/your relationship, anything. This may be A LOT, that’s OK.

Step 2: Do the following

o   Sit with your eyes closed in a comfortable position. Take a few deep breaths in and out and reassure yourself you are safe.

o   Imagine a bright beam of light at the base of your spine traveling through the top of your head into the Universe.

o   Say out loud, “I can now release limiting beliefs instantly. I am now one with my higher self.”

o   Next, see a bright pink beaming light coming from your heart center

o   Think about your limiting belief (just one).

o   Say out loud: “Even though I have this (limiting belief) I completely and deeply love and accept myself on all known and unknown levels.”

o   Imagine the pink light from your heart healing and dissolving all parts of your body and mind where this limiting belief is being held and let forgiveness and acceptance heal and transform that belief.

o   Say out loud, “I now allow myself to receive a higher perspective to replace the belief I just released.”

o   Journal about what comes up.

o   Repeat this process for one limiting belief each day. If there is a super strong rooted limiting belief maybe repeat this process with it for a few days or do this exercise more than once in the day.

o   Consistency is key. It’s not a one-time solution, it’s something you should do consistently as a practice. 

Move toward your true purpose, without fear or indecision.. You deserve to feel full, joyful, and at ease.