productivity

The Myth Of Doing It All

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The other day I was reading an email from a person in our tribe and they said "I just don't understand how those "super women" do it all!" 

I know in this shiny, social media soaked culture we can feel overwhelmingly behind all the time. The comparison game is ON HIGH with most of us. 

And I get it.. it can feel like we're always a few steps behind everyone else.. but let this email be your reminder.. every woman is a super woman and “doing it all” is a myth.

Sometimes we feel like we should be able to do it all.


We have this sense that “everyone else” is doing more than we are; and that we’ll somehow “fall behind” if we don’t keep going a thousand miles a minute.

Better “keep up”!

We have this idea that we should be able to eat “clean” all the time, workout (hard) every day, take care of our families, be chronically sleep deprived & still function well, be successful, make lots of money, have lots of things, have awesome relationships with our parents & have close knit circle of friends... the list goes on.

No wonder we all feel soooo tired.

Of course we can’t do all that.

News flash! No one does.

We can have EVERYTHING our hearts desire, but we’ve better take care of ourselves during the process of getting it, or else what’s the point?

The world needs the best version of you, you can be. The world needs your rested, cared for, and FULL self.

Self-care is not selfish; it’s one of the best things you can do for other people. Letting yourself rest and have downtime is a gift to yourself and others. When you give to yourself, others benefit.

I’m so over women feeling like they have to wear all the hats. Feeling like their dreams require them to sacrifice. Feeling that they need to do all the things and look good doing it.

We don’t.

There will always be phases of intensity when we talk about building dreams, but that doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to let yourself ENJOY every moment of it.

So go ahead.
Give into the pleasure of the moment.
Relish an extra hour in bed; I promise the world won’t collapse and you won’t get fired.
Go to that workout class even though you’ve got a to-do list a mile long.

One thing I just did: mark a day off on your calendar as “a personal day” and do whatever you want. 

Coming Back to America & Productivity Addiction

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It's been a little bit since I've reached out with anything new... and that's because I've returned to the United States after my year-long trek around the world. 

My husband and I are on the very last leg of our journey and today we'll actually set foot in OUR HOME! Right now, we're sitting in the Bozeman Food Co-op waiting for my mom to come pick us up and bring us home. It's snowing outside. We have all our suitcases piled around us as well as a week's worth of groceries that will actually go in my OWN kitchen. 

It feels right. 

I am so excited to have my own space again, more options for clothes than what can fit in a little packing cube, and to be seated at my own little desk in my own little office. 

That being said... 

Coming back to the United States from a year abroad has its difficulties. 

I am a person who is very sensitive to energy and "vibes" and part of what I would do in each country I visited is get a sense of the energy of that country and try to sum it up in a few words. 

Example: Bali is magical and heavy with discovery. India is chaotic and spiritual. Croatia is recovered and burgeoning. 

So when I landed in LAX from Guatemala, I immediately felt the American vibe of: stress, isolationism, and "rat-race-iness." (not to mention the smell of America is fast food restaurants and cleaning chemicals). 

We've been back stateside now for about 3 weeks visiting family and friends and slowly making our way north, and I've already found myself and my energy getting sucked back into this "go go go" energy. It's incredibly hard not to. 

We, as a society, are addicted to productivity. 

We have this idea that being “productive” somehow increases our value. The more we do, the more we’re worth. 

Making us feel like productivity equals love. And productivity starts to be equated to the biggest of all our root desires; connection. 

So we do more. We stretch ourselves further. We try to dig deeper into a well that’s already hit bedrock. We strive. We push.

More work. 
More workouts.
More healthy food.
More money. 
More things. 
More.

And, just like any addiction, this one is making us sick. Creating a surge in physical imbalances like adrenal fatigue, thyroid issues, hormone imbalances; mental/emotional imbalances like anxiety, depression, & a general lack of enthusiasm for life; spiritual imbalances like feeling like we have no purpose & meaning in our lives. 

In a climate like this..
(As Danielle Laporte says) “being still is an act of courage.” 


It is a brave & courageous act to stop, let go of the need to “do” & instead listen. 


To lay in savasana a little longer.
To let yourself sleep in.
To allow yourself to do nothing for an entire day.
To let the “to do” list fall by the wayside. 
4 day work weeks (which I am personally implementing this year).
Take a year long sabbatical.
Do shorter work days.
Take 15 min breaks every hour.

When you stop to reevaluate your life, you are taking a stand against our society-wide addiction & letting wisdom sink in. Creating space for healing to occur. 

Slowing down or stopping won’t get you any honors or congratulations, but when you are intentionally still you are doing something powerful & necessary. 

Pause to feel what’s happening to you. 
Pause to love. 
Pause to appreciate & feel gratitude.

Take a break, not to be more productive later, but because its the inhale to the exhale. 

I see you’re tired, love. I’m tired too. Let’s all rest & simply breathe. You are loved, you are loving, you are lovable, forever. 

You don’t have to do anything to deserve this. We’re in this together.

 

Only Love, 

 

Clara 

A Simple Practice to Let Go of Self-Limiting Beliefs

We all have self-limiting beliefs. They're the beliefs we hold that keep us from trying new things, keep us from fully trusting in our selves, and creating the life that we desire. They're the beliefs that tell us we're not 'good' enough, not smart enough, or not 'attractive' enough. These are beliefs that may have served us in the past and are a part of how we developed as a person. There's nothing wrong with them. However, when we know we're destined for bigger and better things sometimes we have to face these beliefs so we can leave them behind.

Here is a simple practice I've used many, many times on my own self-limiting beliefs and have embraced as a part of my daily practice. 

Step 1: Write down all limiting beliefs fears you have about life/dietary changes/the future/your health/your relationship, anything. This may be A LOT, that’s OK.

Step 2: Do the following

o   Sit with your eyes closed in a comfortable position. Take a few deep breaths in and out and reassure yourself you are safe.

o   Imagine a bright beam of light at the base of your spine traveling through the top of your head into the Universe.

o   Say out loud, “I can now release limiting beliefs instantly. I am now one with my higher self.”

o   Next, see a bright pink beaming light coming from your heart center

o   Think about your limiting belief (just one).

o   Say out loud: “Even though I have this (limiting belief) I completely and deeply love and accept myself on all known and unknown levels.”

o   Imagine the pink light from your heart healing and dissolving all parts of your body and mind where this limiting belief is being held and let forgiveness and acceptance heal and transform that belief.

o   Say out loud, “I now allow myself to receive a higher perspective to replace the belief I just released.”

o   Journal about what comes up.

o   Repeat this process for one limiting belief each day. If there is a super strong rooted limiting belief maybe repeat this process with it for a few days or do this exercise more than once in the day.

o   Consistency is key. It’s not a one-time solution, it’s something you should do consistently as a practice. 

Move toward your true purpose, without fear or indecision.. You deserve to feel full, joyful, and at ease.