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What Surrender Actually Looks Like...

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THE REAL MEANING OF SURRENDER
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Have you ever felt like you wanted to “give up”?
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Have you ever had a goal? A goal that you really, really, really wanted but the time was closing in + it looked like you wouldn’t reach that goal?
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Have you ever felt like you failed?
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I have. I have “failed” so many times, I could never go through them all in this little Instagram caption.
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I have failed in ways that would make you put your hand to your heart + cock your head + say “awwwww.. 😭😭.” I have failed in ways that would make your heart ache.
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But this is where surrender comes in.
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When we have an idea about what you really, really want + we think we understand how to get there + then it becomes apparent that the way we thought we would get there will not work; we can call that failure.
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Or.
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We can surrender.
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Surrender to the bigger plan.
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Surrender to the guidance being offered to us every moment.
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Surrender the attachment to “our way”.. + trust that there is another more beautiful way, if only we let go.
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“Letting go” + “surrendering” doesn’t mean to “give up”, in fact, I’ve done some of my hardest, most difficult work only after I’ve surrendered my ideas about the way things “SHOULD LOOK” or “SHOULD BE.”
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When you truly surrender your path + your single perception of the what you think would be the greatest outcome then you O P E N yourself up to MORE possibilities. The things you could do in the moment expand. You are giving yourself more options.
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Surrendering doesn’t mean stopping + doing nothing + acquiescing to what’s happening.. it means asking “I believe in miracles.. so if there was ONE MORE THING I could do.. what would that be?”
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And then letting go of the idea that you know the best way.
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Surrender today, my loves, AND keep going for what you want.
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I’m with you. 💗




Act Like It

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This is a message to all women out there acting like you are anything less than a spark of the Divine.

This is a message for anyone who feels like they “can’t” do it.

This is a note to any woman out there equating her worth to her waistline or her thigh circumference.

This is a note to you.

To remind of who you are.

You are POWERFUL.

Act like it.

You are CAPABLE.

Act like it.

You have a heart that can transform deep pain and emotional devastation into MORE love.

Act like it.

You have a mind that knows the answer to any question in your heart.

Act like it.

You have a body that is alive; heart beating, lungs breathing, and the complicated systems beyond what we’ve even figured out, are more or less working.

Act like it.

You have a spirit is that is magnificent and came to this earth for a purpose. To learn and to love and know what it’s like to be human.

Act like it.

Remember, that you have a responsibility to treat your precious body well. Feed it healthy, wholesome food. Move it and feel it’s delight. Drink good quality water. Talk nicely to it. It’s made of stardust after all.

Remember, your heart beat is your home. No one else’s. Partners are lovely and comforting, but you’ve got all you need right in the center of your chest.

Remember that your mind is a tool to be used for the good of all, not to spin out on all the disadvantages and excuses and failures of your life.

Remember that your spirit, that unexplained phenomenon that you don’t have to “understand” but that you “know”, is a part of something bigger than you could ever imagine. Be with yourself.

This is your message today to Act like the divine being you are.

I’m with you.




The Myth Of Doing It All

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The other day I was reading an email from a person in our tribe and they said "I just don't understand how those "super women" do it all!" 

I know in this shiny, social media soaked culture we can feel overwhelmingly behind all the time. The comparison game is ON HIGH with most of us. 

And I get it.. it can feel like we're always a few steps behind everyone else.. but let this email be your reminder.. every woman is a super woman and “doing it all” is a myth.

Sometimes we feel like we should be able to do it all.


We have this sense that “everyone else” is doing more than we are; and that we’ll somehow “fall behind” if we don’t keep going a thousand miles a minute.

Better “keep up”!

We have this idea that we should be able to eat “clean” all the time, workout (hard) every day, take care of our families, be chronically sleep deprived & still function well, be successful, make lots of money, have lots of things, have awesome relationships with our parents & have close knit circle of friends... the list goes on.

No wonder we all feel soooo tired.

Of course we can’t do all that.

News flash! No one does.

We can have EVERYTHING our hearts desire, but we’ve better take care of ourselves during the process of getting it, or else what’s the point?

The world needs the best version of you, you can be. The world needs your rested, cared for, and FULL self.

Self-care is not selfish; it’s one of the best things you can do for other people. Letting yourself rest and have downtime is a gift to yourself and others. When you give to yourself, others benefit.

I’m so over women feeling like they have to wear all the hats. Feeling like their dreams require them to sacrifice. Feeling that they need to do all the things and look good doing it.

We don’t.

There will always be phases of intensity when we talk about building dreams, but that doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to let yourself ENJOY every moment of it.

So go ahead.
Give into the pleasure of the moment.
Relish an extra hour in bed; I promise the world won’t collapse and you won’t get fired.
Go to that workout class even though you’ve got a to-do list a mile long.

One thing I just did: mark a day off on your calendar as “a personal day” and do whatever you want. 

What Do Instead Of Making a New Year's Resolution

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During this time of year there is a big emphasis on setting goals and “bettering” ourselves. Sayings like “new year, new you” are everywhere. People are setting aggressive money saving, weight loss, dietary, or workout goals. I’ve seen a lot of people on social media saying thing to the gist of.. “2018 was a terrible a year, but here I come 2019. I’m going to turn it all around.” 

hmmm…

As much as I love goals and focusing on how to bring more intentional design to our lives, new years resolutions aren’t the way we successfully shift our lives.

Here are some harrowing statistics.. 

These aren’t hopeful …

So instead of engaging in something we know doesn’t work for most people, what can you do to actually make 2019 one of the best of your life?

Most of us have broken promises to ourselves much more than we have kept promises to ourselves. What would happen if you had a friend who said they would meet you for coffee at specific date and time and kept either no-showing to the date or making up last minute excuses? You probably wouldn’t trust them. Same goes with ourselves.

When we tell ourselves we’re going to loose weight or save money or change our diet or do more exciting things and we just continue to do the same things we’ve always done, we start to break trust with ourselves. We stop trusting ourselves. 


Then when we set big goals that involve intensive changes to the status quo it’s only a few days or at most a few weeks before we break our promise and go back to our old ways. 

Think about it this way..you’re not going to go on a week long trip to Mexico with your friend who keeps no-showing on you for coffee and you’re not going to trust yourself to eat “clean” and work out every day when you’re not even able to wake up an hour earlier each morning.

So what we need to do is build trust with ourselves in small ways. We need to go for the low hanging fruit. We need to make small changes that are relatively easy and build up from there. The daily habits. This isn’t a sexy proposition, as most people want to make big sweeping changes and see big sweeping results.. but big sweeping results are built from small, steady, consistent daily habits. 


I don’t want to completely disregard goal setting, so I do strongly encourage you to set S.M.A.R.T. (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound) goals for one, three and five years in the future. These an adjust and change as our lives and desires do, but we should always have a plan for where we’re headed if we want to live an intentional, consciously created life. 

However, the most important thing to do during this time of year when we’ve got all the fresh, new year energy is to choose five daily habits you know would make you feel better right now, in this moment.

We don’t want to focus on what we want to change as that is heavy and brings into focus how far we’ve got to go. Not a very motivating thought. But we do want to think about what could we do right now that would make us feel better, right now. That feels doable and empowering. Then make those actions daily habits by committing each one for 30 days before adding the new one.

Here are some examples of daily habits I’ve used this method with. 

  • Drink half your body weight in ounces (eg if you weight 200 pounds you would drink 100 ounces of water) in filtered water each day. 

  • Consistently take my supplements.

  • Add green veggies to every meal

  • Meditate for 20 minutes each morning (this could be 5 minutes if you’re new to mindfulness).

  • Sweat each day

  • Spend one hour undistracted with your partner or kids in the evening

  • Stop work at 6pm 

These daily habits are what is going to build a foundation upon which you trust yourself and keep your own promises to yourself.

So what are is the first daily habit you’re going to adopt this new year? 

 

4 Things I Learned From Doing "Nothing"

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From Christmas eve until January 3rd, I did absolutely nothing. 

Well, that’s not totally true..I did nothing for anyone else. I only did exactly what I wanted to do; moment by moment. I gave myself all the freedom. On the night of December 23rd, I put my phone in airplane mode and didn’t turn it back off until the morning of the 3rd.

No texts.

No emails.

No social media.

No messages.

No way for anyone to get a hold of me. 


So what did I actually do? I traveled to Sedona, Arizona and… 

  • I went to a 75 minute hot yoga class every morning.

  • I hiked around 40 miles over the course of 9 days.

  • I went to a new years eve 3 hour chanting and meditation session with a bunch of strangers that all turned into good friends.

  • I got a 90-min facial, a 90-min massage and my nails done. All in the same day. 

  • I met up with an old friend.

  • I watched a movie called “Call me by Your Name”.. it was really good, highly recommend it.

  • I slept in late.

  • I journaled and wrote about my dreams and aspirations. 

  • I honed those dreamy, free-writings into accomplishable 1 year, 3 year and 5 year goals. 

  • I broke the one year goals down into quarterly, monthly, weekly tasks, and even daily tasks.

  • I ate a lot of delicious food and chocolate and organic green juice.

  • I took about 5 long, hot baths

  • I went to a sound bath. 

  • I went to an ecstatic dance class.

  • I mapped out my travel for 2019.

  • I saw and explored the grand canyon.

  • I hung out in an airport watching silly holiday movies.

  • I read two books. 

  • I meditated for at least 40 minutes each day. 


I gave myself the gift of doing exactly what I wanted. So here’s 4 truths I’ve learned from giving myself what I most needed and wanted.

  1. Sometimes the best thing we can do for those around us is to give something to ourselves. Sacrifice can stunt those we think we’re helping. When we are true to ourselves, we help others be true to themselves.

  2. Even if we run our own business and have no employees or support, or have a super demanding job, we can totally disconnect without the world falling apart if we decide it’s what we need. We are responsible for how our lives unfold. The choice for what happens next in our lives is always our own. 

  3. People will always take whatever you give, and be happy with it. So it’s more up to you to decide how much you want to give (see number 1) and know that it will always be just the right amount. It’s up to you to temper your own giving.

  4. Our own self-care and self-honoring sets an example to anyone we come into contact with. Our own steadiness is our greatest gift to the ones around us. What we give and how we give can change the world—and we are always giving and teaching by our example. -or- How we live is our greatest gift to the world.

Sending you tidings of joy, love, and the deep knowledge that you are worthy of what you most want to give and receive in this world. The power is in your hands.









Winter Solstice Self Care Ritual

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I love thinking of living our lives in congruence with the seasons. Winter is a time for reflection, inward movement, rest and just ‘being.’

However, with the holidays in full swing sometimes this time of year can feel anything but restful.

If you’re searching for something to make you feel cherished and cared for.. give the gift of the following ritual to yourself.

If you want to learn more tips and tricks and hear about how you can join a 30 day cleanse + restore group process I invite you to register for the cleanse +restore 2019 online workshop on January 3rd, 2019 at 1pm MST.

Here’s the steps to your winter solstice self care ritual..

Step 1: Do something physical to get the blood moving. I love to do yoga because it feels delicious. For a home practice I love Yoga by Candace on youtube or Jennifer Pansa’s Earth Elements classes on YogiApproved.com.

Step 2: Dry Skin brushing. This is an ancient practice of moving the lymph (the body’s garbage disposal system) towards the heart and lymph nodes where it is processed. To learn more about it or to see a “dry skin brush” go here.

Step 3: Take a cold as cold can be shower for 3-5 minutes with the shower water hitting you on the heart. This is obviously very shocking, but you’ll be surprised how amazing you feel afterwards. It’s also a powerful detoxifying practice as it act as a kind of water pressure cleaning of your capillaries as your blood is pumped to your extremities.

Step 4: Anoint yourself with oils. In Ayurvedic and Chinese medicine each person has a “dosha” or a constitution. For example, in Ayurvedic language I am a “pitta” dosha, or a fire constitution from Chinese medicine. Since I am fiery, I want to use oils that are “cooling.” Sesame oil is cooling, whereas coconut oil is warming. So people who fall into the air or earth doshas could use coconut oil, it’s better for me to use sesame oil on my body. Find out your dosha here.

For this step I take sesame oil plus 12 drops of CPTG (it is important to use CPTG essential oils) lavender essential oil and 12 drops frankincense essential oil. Buy your CPTG oils here.

I then apply this oil all over my body while massaging myself + telling my body how much I cherish it and how lovely it is. The gist here is rub yourself down with some oil while telling your body nice things.

Step 5: Soak in an epsom salt bath. My recipe is 2 cups epsom salt, 1 cup baking soda, and 20 drops essential oils of choice. I love serenity blend or deep blue blend for relaxing and feeling peaceful.

Step 6: Soak in the bath and read something you’re excited about or listen to some relaxing music or meditate. I love the Love Rising Podcast and the insight timer app.

When you’re ready to rise self care rituals like this show the universe you are ready to start to honor your body + your needs.

Take a picture of some part of this process and post instagram and tag me @revolutionarylifestyle. We’re all in this together!




Part 3: How I Stay Organized | The Steps to Clearing Space

So over the past few weeks I’ve been writing on the mindset of organization, the tools to stay organized, and this week is about brining it all together for a check list on how to stay organized, focused, and forward moving.

The biggest thing about getting things done, staying organized, and focused is to the way you perceive time.

Do you see time as a precious resource?
Do you see time as something that there is never enough of? 

Or do you tend to feel like you can make time up later? 

Are you a procrastinator or a doer? 

Do you consistently underestimate how long things will take or overestimate them? 

Know thyself, as they say, and it will be much easier to figure out what is at the bottom of your lack of focus or organization or struggle to meet the goals you set for yourself. 

Did you know that if we work 40 hrs/week and sleep 8 hours per night we still have 72 hours/week of time? Seems like a lot right? So what is this obsession with having no time? 

There is always a reason for EVERYTHING we do. Self sabotage? The sabotaging behavior is there for a reason. Instead of rallying against the behavior ask yourself what is that behavior giving you? Do you feel constantly unorganized? This is just resistance and an easy way to distract ourselves from our bigger work. Feeling unfocused or overwhelmed? It’s just a lack of priorities.

So the key to focus, organization and forward movement is always reevaluating, reflecting, and being aware of where your time is going and what stories you are telling yourself around it. So here’s the steps to getting organized you can do right now. **these steps are inspired by Ange Peter’s “Beautiful Life Lab”. 

  1. Write down three “stories” or “beliefs” you hold about time. This could be vague like “there is never enough time,” to specific like, “Having three kids means I have far less time than someone with one kid.” or “I don’t have time to meal plan because my job is super demanding.” or “I am more easily overwhelmed than others” These don’t necessarily have to be untrue, it’s just getting clear on what is going through your head when it comes to time. 

  2. Track your time by the half hour for at least three days. So for each half hour from when you wake up to when you go to sleep, write down what you did. 

  3. After you’ve tracked your time; total the amount of time you spent in these four categories: career, self care, relationships, personal development. You can also denote how much time you spent in the following categories: cleaning, exercise, family, driving, hobbies, sleeping, TV, eating/meal prep, social media, day dreaming. 

  4. When you’ve done this you’ve got a really good idea of where your time is leaking away. So take measures, set intentions to shift that. For example, if you spend way more time than you thought you did watching TV, you could move the TV out of the living room so you don’t have the temptation or set some sort of boundary on what you watch and stick to it. 

Once you’ve taken off your plate the most time-leaky behaviors you’ll be way better set up to create the spaciousness and clarity you need to take aligned action and not be a slave to your time perception stories. 

Good luck, loves! 

For a chance to win an essential oils starter kit, post a picture of you doing your organization steps on instagram and tag me @revolutionarylifestyle. 



Part 2: How I Stay Organized | The Tools

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Last week I wrote about the mindset of staying organized, managing your time, making time for the things you value most, and reaching your goals. This week let’s get into the tools I use for time management, goal setting and staying organized, and next week in the final piece of the series I’ll tie it all together.

Number one tool I use all day e’rrr day is google calendar. If you want to be more organized or are confused or at a loss about how to make more time for yourself and the things you value and you don’t have a calendar system, get one stat. It will create healthy boundaries around your time, plus take a lot of the decision fatigue out of your days, so you save your precious brain power for the important stuff. I love using the digital system because then it can sync with other peoples’ calendars, people can send me invites to meetings or appointments, and I can edit it from any of my devices; so it’s always available. Key here is using it religiously; for everything.

I know this may not be for everyone, but I schedule EVERYTHING. I schedule my morning meditation practice, my workouts, my coffee dates with friends, entering all my expenses into quickbooks, and even date nights with the hubs. It doesn’t sound sexy, but it works, and it’s the only way I manage to be relatively highly productive while also never feeling like I’m “too busy.”

Now, of course sometime life happens and my schedule doesn’t go as planned, but that is the exception; not the rule.

The next tool I use the most is trello. This is a relatively new tool for me (thanks to Cass of the The Wellness Rookie for encouraging me to try it out). I used to use google sheets in a very similar way to trello, but trello is for sure more aesthetically pleasing and fun to use.

Trello works as a project management software. One key to being able to take consistent action on big, hairy projects and goals, is breaking down the big stuff into small daily tasks. If you want to write a book, you gotta write the first paragraph and the the first chapter, so it’s easier for our brains to focus on the small achievable tasks. I like to take my big goals or projects and break them down in to 2 hour tasks.

Trello’s boards, lists, and cards enable you to organize and prioritize your projects in a fun, flexible and rewarding way. Trello also syncs on all your devices so you can also refer back to your projects no matter you are. Again, accessibility is key to actually using it. I also love that no matter when or where inspiration strikes I can always make notes in trello so that when I’m ready to sit down and work I have all my notes and ideas in one place. This is incredibly useful for staying organized, but still tapping into inspiration which isn’t something that comes on demand.

For example, let’s say you’re committed to starting a blog and building an online following. You’ve read that putting out consistent content is a big part of attracting readers and search engine optimization. So you decide that you will spend one hour writing a blog post every Tuesday at 10am. You’ve got all sorts of ideas! But then Tuesday at 10am rolls around your mind is totally blank. Nothing seems exciting to write about. Now, if you had been keeping a list of topics every time inspiration struck you could look over that list and start writing away, Trello is a place to keep all the to-do lists and organize tasks.

We can’t talk about organization and time management without talking about how to arm yourself against the onslaught of distractions that is our daily life. You cannot be focused, responsible with your time, and intentional if you don’t have some sort of policy around email, texting, social media, etc.

The tools I use to make sure I’m not spending lots of time just scrolling or replying to emails are called “screen time” on my phone and “stay focused” on the computer.

Screen time is a feature available on all iPhones. This feature allows you to set time limits for certain applications. So, for example, I set a 30 min time limit for facebook and instagram so once my 30 min is up for the day the app itself is blocked off. Stay focused works the same way for websites on your browser. You can get similar programs for android phones as well.

These are the main “tools” I use for intentional time management and organization.

Next week I’ll be back with Part 3: How I Stay Organized | Life Design.

A New Concept of Sweetness

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I love fall.

I love the changing of the seasons.

The feeling of fall is this delightfully cozy energy of turning inward.

It’s the warm sweaters, cups of tea or golden milk and early nights.

The time of year when I always feel the once-I-get home-I’m-not-leaving-again vibes.

Even if you’re not in the wintery north like me, I’m willing to bet you’re feeling the shift of energy.

The other day I was getting super close to this “fall” energy, basking in it, you could say. Just allowing myself to relish the secure feeling and the crisp air.

How sweet it is to curl up under a blanket and read.

How sweet it is to get into bed earlier.

The sound of wood crackling on the fire is one of the sweetest sounds.

There is a reason we call our loved ones “sweetie” and “honey”.. it’s because sweetness and this feeling of coming home are linked in some way. The flavor of sweetness is synonymous to that of safety.

In our primal brains if we have something sweet to eat we know we’re nourished.

One of the reasons I believe people crave sweets so prolifically these days is that our lives are lacking this calm and intimate sweetness of life. So we try to fill the void with physical, flavors of sweetness.

Our lack of emotional and life sweetness translates to a craving for the flavor of sweetness.

So in this perfect of time year, let’s bring ourselves and our loved ones a little more life-sweetness.

Some ideas include:

  • Sleeping in a little longer and going to bed a little earlier.

  • Curling up on the couch with a blanket to watch an old favorite movie.

  • Bundle up and go on a walk to enjoy all the changing leaves colors.

  • Make yourself some golden milk.

  • Go buy at least 5 different teas you’re excited about trying and have a tea party.

  • Taking a nap in the middle of the day.

  • Buy yourself a new cozy sweater. I have been LOVING this one.

  • Draw yourself a bath with epsom salts and add medicinal grade essential oils like ylang ylang and cedar wood.

  • Create a night time ritual.

What does being sweet to yourself look like?

How can you capitalize on this beautiful inward shift of energy to give yourself a little more sweetness in your life?

Comment below and let’s bring on the sweetness!

Golden Milk Recipe

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Ingredients

**(this is to make a few cups of golden milk that you can then store and reheat or serve cold).

  • 2 cans full fat organic coconut milk or unsweetened almond milk

  • 1/4 cup dried organic turmeric powder

  • 1 TBSP ginger powder

  • 3 TBSP local honey

  • 1/4 cup MCT oil

  • 1 tsp fresh ground black pepper

  • 1 drop cardamon doTERRA essential oil

  • 1/4 cup collagen

  • Sprinkle cinnamon on the top when serving

Instructions:

  • Pour coconut milk or almond milk into a sauce pan and turn on medium heat

  • Add honey and MCT oil as it’s heating and whisk to mix together

  • When it comes to a simmer add the spices and collagen.

  • Let it simmer for a few minutes until all is well mixed together.

  • Pour into glass jar and let cool before closing up and storing in the fridge

  • **nice to add a little cardamon or cinnamon essential oils (doTERRA ONLY!) when serving.

  • You can drink it cold or warm or add to coffee in the morning and blend up for a frothy “latte”

Follow the Urge

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As I’m writing this I am sitting by a stream in a camping area about an hour from my rural Montana home. No phone service. No internet. No sounds but the wind through the trees, a few birds chatting back and forth, and the stream rushing by.

I have come to crave this solitude; this feeling of nowhere to be and nothing to do. This feeling of total detachment from the buzz and hmmm of the electric world. I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in this.

If you know me at all, you know I’m a “go-getter.” I’m ambitious and direct. I know what I want. Clarity has never been something I struggled to find. I’m a black and white thinker. I know what’s right and wrong. Most of my adult life so far as revolved around traveling the world or working to travel or working while traveling. 

Yet.. all of the sudden I feel the need to STOP. Be still. Just be. To be completely honest, it’s foreign. Sure, I love meditation. I truly believe that if all people took more time to contemplate and watch our thoughts, the world would be a much happier and healthier place. 

But this desire for stillness, is more than just a routine morning quiet time. It’s like a part of me that was always there, but in the shadows has come out into the light and is all the sudden driving and all the other parts of me are getting motion sickness. The constant movement to stillness. The raw ambition to the relative apathy. The pure clarity to the grey area. This new driving force of stillness is making me feel like I don’t quite know myself.

None of this is bad. It’s a form of growth. I can tell, a deeper awakening to myself and my power is imminent. My body and higher self are calling on me to SLOW DOWN. 

Listen. 

Take rest. 

“You’ll need your energy for what’s to come.”

A time of potential building and ripening. 

So all this is to say.. if you feel the urge to slow down too, follow it. If you feel a little “stuck” “lost” or “uninspired”, there isn’t anything wrong with it. It’s part of our cyclical nature. We will always come back to the action. We will always come back to the desire to do. We contract and we expand. We have periods in our lives (sometimes very long periods) of creation and manifesting and periods of recuperating and stillness. 

We all live and we all die. 

The circle or the wave of life.

The struggle against this inevitable waning of life is what makes this aspect of life miserable.

When you go into a period of stillness, and instead of letting it offer you its insight, you fight and rally against it, you deny it and try to keep pushing, is when you elongate that period or make it more painful than it has to be. 

When you build the story of “failure” or “lazy” around a simple need for stillness, you rob yourself of the lessons it’s trying to teach you and elongate the whole process. 

 

If I have learned anything from my relatively short, but very full life it’s that the more we’re able to listen to our internal urges, those little nagging feelings, the “pings” of intuition, the more we’re following the path of least resistance. The path that will easily and fully lead us to where we need to go, what we need to learn, and who we need to be.

Sometimes those nagging feelings aren’t easy to follow. I can tell you firsthand, that my ego DOES NOT WANT to slow down. It wants to go. It wants to accomplish. It wants to MAKE IT HAPPEN. It wants to check the things off the list. It wants to get recognition and praise. So for me to follow this urge to come out to this place in nature with all distractions and connections severed, took a lot of higher-self-worth and trust. It’s a muscle you build over time and with practice. 

You start listening to the little nudges first. You take a different road on your drive home from work because you get the urge. You call that friend that keeps popping into your mind. You sit at the base of the tree in the park because it keeps grabbing your attention.

Then the smaller things turn into bigger things. You get the clear urge to go to Italy, so you plan a trip there. You get the clear urge to talk to your partner about that thing you’ve been hiding from him or her.

This is the way to start to tap into this path of living our lives in the path of the least resistance.  A flip to following “my will” to “the higher will.” The greater good. The higher purpose. Getting our directions from the thing that makes our hearts beat and tells the flowers when to open. The great mystery. 

Mystery doesn’t give you a play by play. A step by step process. It gives you an urge. It gives you a ping. It gives you a nagging feeling.

Go ahead, play the mystery game.

I’m with you. 

 

 

 

A Note on Worthiness

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We believe that we'll take care of ourselves once we hit that goal.

We believe that we'll feel relaxed around food if only we could get to our "goal weight."

We believe that if we had more money or time we would most certainly get massages and buy that yoga studio membership.

We believe that we would definitely meditate, journal, and breathe deeper if only we had a couple more hours in the day.

But the truth is... these things will never be a priority unless they're a priority NOW. 


And a lot of times the reason we have these "if only this, THEN I would be better.." thoughts is because we believe that somehow we're not worthy of the things we want NOW. 

We believe that if we EARN our right to relax, then we will finally relax.

We believe that if we do something to DESERVE the self care, then we'll take care of ourselves. 

We keep ourselves on the hamster wheel of doing.

Always working towards the next thing. 

Because... what would we be if just.... stopped. 

We would be OURSELVES, just as we are.. and unfortunately, most of us have decided through past experiences and programming that we are not good enough as we are.

Somewhere in the shadowy depths of our psyche there is this voice that says, "You're not worthy or eating in a relaxed way, until you're 20 lbs lighter," 

or

 "You don't deserve to spend money on a massage since you don't make as much money as your husband."

or

"How could I possibly take a day to myself when I am mother of young children that need me!?" 

or

"I can't take time to meditate and connect to myself, then I might actually 'see' what's going on in my mind!"

So the problem is; when we make our self care or worthiness contingent upon other actions or external sources, we will never get THERE. 

That's not the way this way of thinking works.

It's insatiable.

We've gotta get to the root of it all: the perceived unworthiness.

We've gotta believe we are worthy of all we want before we give ourselves all we want.

We've gotta believe we're worthy of a massage, a day of blissful free time to ourselves, or a new sweater, for no reason other than we want it.

We've gotta believe that even if we watch hours of TV we're still worthy of feeling good. 

We've gotta believe that even if we just ate a whole pizza we're worthy of being loved.

We'll never do enough to earn the right to relax. We may try, but we'll just play over and over in our head all the things we should have done or still need to do.

We've gotta just relax when we need it.

We'll never "catch up" up enough to slow down, if we're constantly playing into the story that we're behind. 

We've gotta just stop when we need to.

We'll never make enough money to deserve to spend it freely on ourselves if we believe we aren't worth what we want right now.

We've gotta invest in ourselves and our future and trust ourselves enough to believe we'll make the correct choices.

Because, Worthiness is not given or earned; it is CLAIMED.

If you're ready to address the seed of your perceived unworthiness book a 30 min self love clarity call with me here. 

 

 

You Are the Master of Your Mind

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“The mind was made to bless.” - A Course in Miracles.



I got a message from an audience member of mine talking about her struggle with disordered eating.

She asked me why her mind was so irrational. Why when she knew she should stop restricting, she just couldn’t get the self-negating thoughts about her looks & how much/what she was eating, to go away.

She asked, "How come my mind is so irrational? When will these thoughts stop?"

The not so sexy answer is.. the thoughts won’t stop, but you are SO much more than your thoughts. And as you put your thoughts/feelings back in their place (in the backseat, not the driver’s seat)...they start to matter less & less.

The goal can never be to get the thoughts to go away or stop, the goal always have to be disengaging from the thoughts & identifying with the part of you that is soo much more. That space in your heart that is full of mystery & expansion & knowing.

Your mind/thoughts/feelings can be your servants. Not your master. Identifying with & remembering the master in you is the work.. as you do that the thoughts relax & go where they should, toward blessing the world around you.

Our minds were not made to be constantly coming up with the worst case scenario. But unfortunately most of us have put them in charge of our lives & that is WAY out of our mind’s job description, so that’s how it copes.

The worry & the fear. The mental anguish. The irrational thoughts. Guard constantly up. Always looking for the next blow.

Let it go. 
Let the part of you that knows come forward & lead. Those pesky little thoughts will go from your worst enemy to your best friend when released from their unwarranted responsibility of keeping you safe.

As we decide to stop identifying with our mind/thoughts/feelings we discover the master quietly waiting in the background, in the stillness of our own hearts.

Let go.
Get quiet.
Spend time with yourself.
I’m with you.

9 Steps to Get Yourself Out of a Funk

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Here is an instructional post for you and me about how to pull yourself out of a funk. (this is for me to refer back to as well).

1. Decide to change your state. Notice that you are in a low vibe, frustrated, sad or angry state, then take your power back and decide to move into action to change your state. You can’t get to feeling good by doing more of something that is making you frustrated.

2. Drink at least 20 ounces of warmish water. Add one drop grapefruit essential oil (ONLY with doTERRA essential oils, you CANNOT ingest other oils) to give you that oomph of metabolism boost.

3. Roll some Rose Touch oil under your eyes and over your heart. Add a little peppermint oil behind your ears. BOOM!

4. Draw about 10 circles of cheer blend in the palm of your hand and run it through your hair. Breathe this juice in too - your brain will know what to do.

5. Get outside and get your barefoot on the ground. Find some plants to “talk” with and let them know how glad you are they are there.

6. Call a friend or your mom.

7. Help a friend or acquaintance with something they are feeling stuck in. Or simply do something nice for someone else. It is scientifically proven that helping people makes us feel better.

8. Send a few notes of gratitude to people who you haven’t talked to in awhile. Comment something nice and heartfelt on a friend’s post on social media.

9. Journal about what you are most excited about doing in the next couple months. Use some grapefruit + rosemary oil in the diffuser to help with a loving transition. Journal prompt: How can what I’m struggling with be made easy? What are some creative ways I can get what I need to get done in a way that is fun and feels good.

These 9 steps are guaranteed to get you in a better mood in no time.💪🏼



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Do You Celebrate Yourself?

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This past week I reached a personal business goal of mine that I have been putting a lot energy & intention towards for a very long time.

A lot of working on weekends, taking trips away from my family, not taking part in social events, later work nights, longer days, sacrificing the pleasure of now for the pleasure of the long term.. all culminating this month.

There is something so incredibly satisfying about setting a goal and accomplishing it.

The intention is set. The decision is made. The challenge is accepted. The work begins. Energy is channeled toward the desired outcome.

Sometimes a goal comes more easily than we expected. 

Most the time we take a few wrong turns on the way. We might go backwards for a bit. We might lose track of the end goal in the details of getting there. A lot of times we are required to readjust the goal in one way or another. Change our expectations. Make exceptions. 

But if we continue to keep moving forward and train our mind to latch on to only love, we will always, eventually, make it to where we are supposed to, in perfect time.

After we reach the goal, we feel accomplished, maybe even overjoyed.

It’s in that space that I am now.

In the past I would (and I think a lot of people tend to do this as well) immediately move on to the next “bigger” and “better” goal. Or find the reasons why the goal I reached wasn’t really such an accomplishment, and play it down. I would rain on my own parade by immediately demanding more from myself. Comparing myself to others who had reached more “impressive” goals; downplaying all the joy.

But now, I choose to stop in the midst of this celebration of myself.

I choose to really revel in the fulfillment.

I choose to congratulate and love on the people who ran with me and made it possible (I would never pretend that I reach my goals on my own). 

I choose to see myself and my people; victorious.

To be still and create space around the feeling of jubilant satisfaction of truly creating something meaningful, and get really, really familiar with this feeling. Because I plan on having a lot more of it.

Part of the reason people can get so downtrodden, ambivalent, and lukewarm when it comes to the goals they set for themselves is that they have never actually let themselves FEEL how good it feels to create. They don't celebrate themselves.

That is one of the MOST motivating feelings ever.

Brene Brown says that joy is the most vulnerable of emotions. And it IS! If you really let yourself be truly joyful, the threat of you getting blindsided is greater. The part of ourselves that is protecting us from judgement, pain, and disconnection might feel that joy is actually something that needs to be tempered.

So we end up hedging our joy with an edge of down play. We temper our sunny celebration with a hint of grey skepticism. It makes a weird kind of sense. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

So, today I choose to really & deeply experience this win of mine.

I choose to celebrate.

I choose to remember what it feels like to feel really, really satisfied.

Are you with me?

 

 

You Need A Stay-Cation

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Who here feels like they need a vacation? 

We are a seriously crazy society of go go go. 

The amount of stress we are under on a normal every day basis is something our biology has never seen before. Even if you don’t believe you have a particularly stressful job or don’t feel particularly overwhelmed there are a lot of stressors we are subjected to on a regular basis.h

Blue light from screens has been shown to be very stressful on our nervous systems. Activating them and not allowing our hormonal system to calm down at night. Making it hard to sleep and really get into a rest and relaxation state, in which our bodies does so much repairing and recuperating.

Toxic chemicals from cleaners, cars, make-up, shampoo, lotion, etc are constantly being added to our blood stream. Loud noises like airplanes, cars, ambulances, music has been shown to put our nervous systems on high alert. This creates difficulties producing sex hormones and getting into the rest and digest nervous system state. Driving in traffic. Driving at all. High intensity exercise and lots of sitting, a combination that can be very shocking to the body. Hyper connectivity and always being “plugged in” via the internet.  Alcohol. Fast food. Lack of gentle, consistent movement to move our fluids and lymph throughout the body. The pressure to look good, have lots of energy, get shit done, crush it.. that never seems to subside. All these inputs in our society are definitely adding to our almost subconscious stress levels. 

I could go on and on. But the point is that we are under extreme amounts of stress, some perceived, but a lot unperceived. Our human bodies, which have shallow adaptations to survive in this situation, but have not deeply evolved to be able to thrive in it, are struggling. The amount of “adrenal fatigue” or more accurately called ‘HPA axis dysregulation’ is alarming. Not to mention hormone imbalances, sleeping issues, depression, anxiety, and much more.

Most of us think that everyone but us is somehow making this situation of a high stress environment work for them, but the truth is.. most people actually are not living lives of full vitality. Most adults in the US are in adrenal fatigue at some level. It is rare to find an adult in the US that doesn't have an addiction to their smartphones, social media, and news. Most adults in the US are definitely struggling with the status quo of high stress and have issues relaxing and disconnecting.

A vacation would be great. A real, true getaway. Going to some far off beach somewhere with zero internet or phone access and totally and completely unplug. But..the truth is, most of us couldn’t afford it, or we couldn't get the time off work, or if we didn’t stay at least two weeks we wouldn’t actually be able to relax. We’d be thinking about work and all that would need to get done once we got back. Or we have the kids and it’s not a real hands-off vacation but a mess of dolphin swimming, packed recreation excursions all topped off with heavy drinking and gambling at night. You definitely don't feel rested and relaxed after a "vacation" like that. 

We also need to disconnect from our day to day busy lives more often than once or twice a year. Relaxation is actually a practice, so we need to do it consistently or we forget how to do it. We NEED time away and unplugged if we have any hope of living a life that is fulfilled, vital, and intentional. We need to reconnect on a regular basis to ourselves and really relax and unhook. 

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That’s why I’m committed to taking a stay-cation at least once per month. The perks of a stay-cation are: 

  • cheaper
  • less travel time
  • less planning 
  • get to know your own backyard a little better 
  • a lot more I’m probably not thinking of right now.. 

My simple parameters for a stay-cation are:

  • Spend at least 2 days and one night somewhere no farther than 50 miles from home. You can also just stay home.
  • Turn your phone on airplane mode
  • Turn your wireless router off or don’t bring your computer or do not connect it to the internet. 
  • Make plans that are all revolved around being present with the people you are with. Or do it alone and don’t talk to anyone. 
  • Do something that loves on your body (hot yoga, restorative yoga, massage, whatever!) 
  • Any other parameters you want to set for yourself. 

This last weekend Sean (the hubs) and I stayed at The Sacajawea Hotel. “The Sac” as it’s known in these parts is in Three Forks, Montana, which is one of the most significant points on the Lewis and Clark Trail. Three Forks is the the headwaters of the Missouri River. And in Three Forks, Montana, Sacajawea was reunited with her brother and brokered safe passage for the explorers. The Sacajawea Hotel was constructed in 1910. 

Pretty cool, right? 

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It was the perfect blend of ease and luxury as it’s just 20 miles from our house, but feels like a whole different world. If you’re in the area (or going to be in the area) I highly recommend looking into staying at “The Sac.” 

That being said, a stay-cation doesn't have to be super swanky. It can be super basic. It can mean putting your phone on airplane mode, turn your wifi router off, and just reading for the weekend; totally disconnected. 

No matter where you're at, you've got the means to disconnect and I guarantee you'll be so happy you did. 

Read This & Feel Better Immediately

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What will you do with your one & only most wild & precious life?

We can get so bogged down in the details.

We can get so focused on what we don’t have & what we aren’t doing & what we can’t seem to make happen.

But this, right here, right now, is YOUR life & I bet if you look around you can find a lot of stuff you do have, things you are doing, & what you are making happen.

A simple shift of perspective from constricted to expansive.

Closed to open.

Small to big.

That’s all it takes.

A deep breath in.
A long, happy sigh out.

Come back to you.

Come back to the Truth.
You are good.


You are precious.


All moments have led you up to this one, to experiencing exactly what you are experiencing.


No one else has ever gotten to be right where you are, right now. And that is the most valuable fact.

There you are.

I’m with you.

A Self Care Ritual

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While I’m on my period I always find I need to take a little extra time for myself.

Our periods are such an amazing time to slow down, turn inward, and really harness our feminine power. In this day and age I think a lot women despise their periods. We get cramps, we’re moody and sensitive, and everything just seems harder. When I was on the pill I would purposefully skip my periods because they seemed like such a bother.

But now, I’ve realized how incredibly sacred cycling is. I’ve started to embrace this time of the month as the perfect time for reflection and deep self love. During our periods are when we are most spiritually astute and in tune. It’s when “the veil” between worlds is thinnest, so to speak. That’s why we get sensitive. We get “moody”, which is really just patronizing speak for being able to pick up on a lot of complex emotions and feelings. When we are in this ultra connected state we have to ‘do’ less and ‘be’ more.

Cramping, nausea, heat regulation issues, and the other physical symptoms of our periods, when extreme, can be a sign of hormonal imbalances as well as disconnection from our feminine side. In a way it’s “She” calling out for us to listen to Her.

A lot of hormonal imbalance comes from our bodies having a hard time detoxifying and processing synthetic hormones from birth control, artificial fragrances, and chemicals in our food that act similar to hormones. So if you have extremely painful cramping or other extreme symptoms, there are a lot of very successful natural ways to balance hormones. Reach out to me and we can get you set up on a natural path to healing. 

Even with well-balanced hormones and a good practice of listening to ourselves and self care, we can still get some light cramping, fatigue, headaches, etc. Our bodies are doing A LOT internally doing that time, so we need to give them a break. 

For me, the second day of my period always seems to be the day where my body really calls for some tenderness. So I’ve developed a self care ritual that makes me felt cared for, marks this special time of the month, and creates a sense of trust between myself and my body. It also supports detoxification of hormones and soothes any symptoms I might be having. 

 

Step 1: Do something physical to get the blood moving. I love to do yoga because it feels delicious. For a home practice I love Yoga by Candace on youtube or Jennifer Pansa’s Earth Elements classes on YogiApproved.com. Make sure this something gentle. During our periods exercising should be smooth, flowing, and gentle. No hardcore workouts please.  

Step 2: Dry brushing. This is an ancient practice of moving the lymph (the body’s garbage disposal system) towards the heart and lymph nodes where it is processed. To learn more about it or to see a “dry skin brush” go here

Step 3: Take a cold as cold can be shower for 3-5 minutes with the shower water hitting you on the heart. This is obviously very shocking, but you’ll be surprised how amazing you feel afterwards. It’s also a powerful detoxifying practice as it act as a kind of water pressure cleaning of your capillaries as your blood is pumped to your extremities. 

Step 4: Anoint yourself with oils. In Ayurvedic and Chinese medicine each person has a “dosha” or a constitution. For example, in Ayurvedic language I am a “pitta” dosha, or a fire constitution from Chinese medicine. Since I am fiery, I want to use oils that are “cooling.” Sesame oil is cooling, whereas coconut oil is warming. So people who fall into the air or earth doshas could use coconut oil, it’s better for me to use sesame oil on my body. Find your dosha here.

For this step, I take sesame oil plus 12 drops of CPTG (it is important to use CPTG essential oils) lavender essential oil and 12 drops frankincense essential oil. I then apply this oil all over my body while massaging myself and telling my body how much I cherish it and how lovely it is. The gist here is rub yourself down with some oil while telling your body nice things. 

Step 5: Soak in an epsom salt bath. My recipe is 2 cups epsom salt, 1 cup baking soda, and 20 drops essential oils of choice. I love serenity blend or deep blue blend for relaxing and feeling peaceful. 

Step 6: Soak in the bath and read something you’re excited about or listen to some relaxing music or meditate.

Do this and you’ll feel like a totally new person. I promise. 

**If you’d like to get some CPTG essential oils at 25% off their retail price, please contact me at clara@revolutionarylifestyle.com 

 

 

 

 

Shame is Not a Motivational Speaker

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t’s kinda crazy how we think using shame is going to motivate us into “staying in line.”

When you want someone else to do something for you.. do you “shame” them?

I hope not. When I’m asking a favor of someone or I want to motivate someone to do something I generally find something to compliment about them (authentically of course) or assure them how powerful/strong/smart/resilient they are.

It works so much better to treat people with kindness. 

So.. if we want ourselves to make a change, why don’t we “butter” ourselves up a bit?

Why don’t we assure ourselves how loved, loving and lovable we are?

Shame makes us shrink. It makes us scared, fearful, and downtrodden.

Love makes us blossom & expand.

When we speak #onlylove to ourselves we start to see the incredible amount of potential we have to create the changes we want to see in our lives and the world.

Shame is not a motivational speaker and you can never get more love through fear, threats, or misery.

Only Love creates more love.

So give up self-shaming right here and right now. I'm with you. 

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The Myth of "Doing It All"

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Sometimes we feel like we should be able to do it all.

We have this sense that “everyone else” is doing more than we are;. That we’ll somehow “fall behind” if we don’t go a thousand miles a minute.

Better “keep up”!

We have this idea that we should be able to eat “clean” all the time, workout (hard) every day, take care of our families, be chronically sleep deprived and still function well, be successful, make lots of money, have lots of things, have awesome relationships with our parents & have close knit circle of friends... the list goes on.

No wonder we all feel so f*cking tired.

Of course we can’t do all that.

News flash! We can have EVERYTHING our hearts desire, but we’ve better take care of ourselves during the process of getting it, or else what’s the point?

The world needs the best version of you, you can be. The world needs your rested, cared for, & FULL self.

Self-care is not selfish. It’s one of the best things you can do for other people. Letting yourself rest, have downtime, and eat as much as you want, is a gift to yourself and the people around you most. 

When we don't allow yourself to dream, value your inner guidance system, pay attention to what your body is calling for, our relationships suffer. There is no doubt. Our relationships thrive when we are thriving. 

I’m so over women feeling like they have to wear all the hats. Feeling like their dreams require them to sacrifice. Feeling that they need to do all the things and look good doing it.

We don’t.

There will always be phases of intensity when we talk about building dreams, but that doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to let yourself ENJOY every moment of it.

So go ahead.
Give into the pleasure of the moment.
Relish an extra hour in bed; I promise the world won’t collapse and you won’t get fired.
Eat another piece of pizza.

One thing I just did: mark a day off on your calendar as “a personal day” and do absolutely nothing else but recuperate & lounge.

What are you going to do to take care of yourself today?